I’ve been sat at this laptop for a while now trying to find something to write about and all I have been able to do it google how to make my own ravioli, I may be coming down with a serious case of BLOGGING BLOCKAGE!!
For those who don’t know what this is or have ever suffered from this let me enlighten you on this.
Blogging blockage is where you know you need to write about something that we get people reading but all you can think is nothing at all then start looking at random stuff on good old google.
Usually this is a case of where you should just give up for the day and let it come to you naturally but what if it never does?
You all know more about my children by now than I do!
So I decided to write about writer’s block, authors suffer it and so do bloggers, so how do we fix this is there a magic trick or a site we can go to with blogging ideas.
I have also been blessed with people contacting me to be featured on my blog which gives me a sense of what I am trying to do is going in the right direction and im getting closer to my goal of raising awareness.
So in conclusion I have the perfect solution to blogging blockage and that is to put my laptop away make a cup of tea and maybe even treat myself to some biscuits.
The blogging can wait for a while it will still be here when I finally have something worth writing about!
Daddy Giraffe x
When your children are babies it lovely, you can just cuddle them whenever you want and they are so cute and loving but then they become toddlers and you look at them kicking off sometimes and think it must be hard being you.
This happens leading up to becoming a toddler and when they hit the 2+ age which im sure every parent in the world has found this out.
Freddie is our 3 year old and has fantastic manners towards us and people in the street, he’s very friendly and likes talking to everyone he sees but like every now and again he has his melt downs.
So let me tell you some of my toddler tantrums I have experienced so far.
Just yesterday Freddie was in a grumpy kind of mood but was happily playing in the hallway, all of a sudden he throws his toys and lies on the floor crying.
Maybe he’s hurt himself?
So I ask him whats wrong and his response was something I wasn’t prepared for…
He was crying because he couldn’t fly!
Oh right well that’s something I hadn’t planned on solving today, how are meant to explain to a 3 year old that im sorry but I can make you fly anytime soon.
I turn to his mom and say it must be hard being a Freddie and within 2 minutes he had forgotten all about it and was watching Mr Tumble like his lack of flight had never happened.
Within my time as daddy I have learnt when to pick you battles and try not to laugh when they are having their moments.
Freddie had hit Annabelle and made her cry and this was my conversation with Freddie over apologising to his sister….
Daddy: Freddie say sorry!
Daddy: Say sorry now!
Freddie: I don’t want to!
Daddy: If you don’t say sorry you’re going to your bedroom and you’ll stay there!
Freddie: Let me check my map……
Why I waited I don’t know but after a minute he responded..
Freddie: Hmmmm No!
He was sent to his room but I found this far to funny that he thought this up on the spot.
Even now my 1 year old has started getting attitude, she now can walk and talk pretty well but ever now and again this beautiful angel has her moments.
She walks up to me with her empty bottle, looks up at me with them big beautiful blue eyes and asks for juice.
Of course you can princess!
So I fill the bottle and the second I go to hand it to her all hell breaks loose and before I know it she is rolling around on the floors screaming, so I leave it on the floor and instantly she stops picks it up and walks away.
I’m just left there think what the hell just happened!!
So surely teenage years should be easy right?
Daddy Giraffe x
There are many bloggers and people around that we talk to on a daily basis and I have enjoyed getting to know them all through time, this got me thinking and I have decided to start a series called Getting to know you.
This will be a list of questions both serious and non serious just like a mini interview, so lets get to know the people we talk to on a daily basis.
My first interview is with the Awesome Mummyof5miracles!!!
Before I get old…well older, there are certain things that I am wanting to do and learning sign language is one of them.
When Freddie was little he used to watch a Children’s Program which I’m sure you have all heard of, this program is Something Special.
This is a program which stars Justin Fletcher, he meets with children that have special needs and explores days out which learning new things using sign language.
In this he plays a character called Mr Tumble who both Freddie and now Bethie are obsessed with to the point of when they would sing bed time stories or said thank you they would do it using sign from what they saw on the program.
After doing some research in to sign language I found that Deafness is not only the 3rd most common disability in the world but its estimated that 9 million people in UK alone are deaf.
With my dad just becoming blind and my on a quest to raise awareness for mental health I find that im wanting to learn sign language especially when im looking to go into the caring industry looking after the young and elderly.
So how will I go about this, I have learnt some basic Makaton signs from good old Youtube but I will need to do some kind of course to actually get anywhere or I will just be wandering around signing Hello and Sandwich!
So do any of my friend out there know sign language and are willing to give me pointers or guide me in the right direction on what to do.
In this multicultural world we should not only have the options of learning other languages in school but the option of learning basic sign for people in schools that are hard of hearing or when you go out into the real world and meet someone and it will make the barrier between you easier.
Thank you for reading!
Daddy Giraffe x
FEAR – Meaning an unpleasant emotion caused by the threat of danger, pain or harm.
As humans we are subject to many different emotions such as happiness, sadness, guilt and one of the strongest emotions is fear!
This is an emotion that tends to consume people as causes them to go into what is called fight or flight mode which in a time of crisis can save your life.
Fear comes in all sorts of shapes and sizes, people have phobias about almost everything for instance Phobophobia is a fear of phobias which just shows how strong this emotion is.
There are 3 things that make me very nervous and sweat, these things are…
Now this dislike was way before the original film IT came out, which I like actually Tim Curry played it so well.
No it’s not that im scared of clowns it’s I just don’t trust them!
Covered in all that make up, I can’t see who’s underneath which unnerves me and makes me very wary so I tend to avoid them if I can.
Not a big fan at all and this just doesn’t come down to my own injections but taking my children for they shots as well.
Now I know it is only a sharp scratch and once it’s done it’s all over so the pain is only for like seconds but its the anticipation that gets me every time.
You just can’t brace yourself enough to be stabbed by a sharp pointy bit of metal is the most tender parts of your body while the take out stuff that’s meant to stay inside your body.
I remember once having my blood taken in A&E the doctors took 3 tubes then on the way out he dropped them on the floor resulting in more injections in my other arm…not the best day of my life.
This is the biggest of all!!
Have you seen the old Tom & Jerry cartoons when the woman sees Jerry and stands on a chair screaming?
Yeah well that’s me but im sure I squeal much higher than she does.
So much so I couldn’t even put up a pic of a spider so I had to put up Lucas the friendly Spider but make no bones about it Lucas you come into my house you will meet my shoe my big eyed friend.
The question is can fears be conquered?
In my opinion yes they can if your willing to try, I’m scared of needles but I give blood every few months to help those who will need it some day.
I hate clowns but if I saw one running at me in the street I would roundhouse his ass!!
Spiders on the other hand is hard but I have heard there is an app where it cures your phobia but making it seem like your holding one.
No thank you I will pass…I would rather fight a bear, while covered in honey which I just stolen from a hive that pissed of the queen bee.
Anyone can do anything with their mind set in the right place but I think with a little bit of fear in all of this keep us balanced and grounded.
Fear is just a word!
Well until I see a giant spider dressed as a clown holding a needle then you will see fear and possibly a grown man cry.
Daddy Giraffe x
More and more people are joining me on trying to raise awareness on coming forward with their Mental Health issues to put it out there that its ok to openly talk about such a taboo subject.
I am overwhelmed with the responses ive received and people’s willingness to be brave and step forward.
I was approached by a lovely lady called Mary who wanted to share her story with us and I was more than happy to help her.
Here is the story of Mary….
1. Please can you tell us about yourself.
I’m 38. A mum of twin 9 month old babies, I’m in a long term relationship with Ian we have been together 7 years.
I was until recently a volunteer coordinator at Telford after care team where I created the dual diagnosis groups. I have also been through addiction alongside my mental health diagnosis.
2. How did your Mental Health journey begin and where you diagnosed with anything?
My journey began when I was 14.
It was only after a serious suicide attempt in 2010 that I was diagnosed with Bipolar Disorder type 2.
I had lost my best friend to cancer, had a relationship end and was in a job that had no future this all happened in the space of 2 weeks.
I didn’t know how to cope I was homeless and sofa surfing, I felt life had no meaning and attempted to take my own life.
I spent time in ICU and a mental health secure unit for 2 months until I could get housed in a mental health rehab which saved my life.
3. How does this effect your everyday living?
I have mood swings constantly, Highs make me manic and make everyday tasks really hard the lows take the form of me not being able to get out of bed get dressed etc.
4. How do you keep yourself calm in stressful situations?
I use a lot of mindfulness and grounding techniques.
5. Do you feel people’s opinions have changed towards you since you were diagnosed?
I feel some people can be judgemental as they don’t fully understand and make a joke out of it.
Others have been warm and accepting.
6. After being in your situation what advice would you give someone who is going through something similar?
Talking helps massively I isolated myself and shut down in my darkest hour but since then I have learnt that talk therapy helps unconditionally.
7. What are your future goals?
My future goals are to be a good mum. A good role model. And find my place in the world again.
8. Are you part of any groups or organisations that have helped you along your way?
I have associated with many organisations during my recovery but the one that has helped me the most has been the community mental health team.
9. Name something good about yourself?
I like to help people.
Thank you Mary for being so open and honest with me about you Mental Health Journey and letting us know its ok to seek help.
I wish you all the best in the future.
Daddy Giraffe x
A short while ago I posted a piece on my top 5 hates which included things like rudeness and early morning wake up calls.
This time im going to write about the lighter side of thing so this is Daddy Giraffes top 5 Loves.
I never ever was a sweet person, I didn’t really have sugar in my tea or coffee and ate very little in the way of chocolate BUT then I had children and discovered how awesome biscuits are!!
I gained a little addiction at one point where I was always trying different types to try and find the best biscuit in the world, which happens to be in my opinion the all mighty chocolate Hobnob, an indestructible biscuit that meets all needs.
From anyone I have asked this biscuit is always within their top 3, it’s a good job I have a fast metabolism or I would be 50 stone!
I’m a big fan of musicals and always have been, I have watched most of them from The Phantom of the Opera to Annie.
My top Musical of all time up until 2 weeks ago was always The Rocky Horror Picture Show, I loved everything about it and from The Phantom of the Opera to Oliver but my favourite musical of all time until 2 weeks ago was The Rocky Horror Picture Show.
At one point was given tickets to see it live and on the front row but I chickened out as I was right in the sight of being pulled on stage and having to dress up, so I gave them away but regretted it instantly.
My new favourite musical is The Greatest Showman, I was a bit dubious about the reviews but they were all right it is amazing, I was entertained from start to finish and now listen to the soundtrack which never gets old.
3. The Lion King
My favourite Film of all time!!
This may come as a shock as I’m a big Bruce Lee fan and I even had all of his films but now at my grand old age of 34 Lion King is hands down my favourite film.
How can you not like a story about a small lion who cant wait to be king!
I have always wanted to see the Lion King musical but it’s always in London and I hate London it to busy for me so I will just wait and hope it comes on the TV at some point.
2. Martial Arts
My life has surrounded Martial Arts from a young age, I was big into kickboxing when I was younger entering various competitions then I saw MMA for the first time on TV and was instantly hooked.
I took up MMA when it was brand new, all of my friends at school had just seen it coming out and I was actually doing it at the time.
I progressed through the years going to different gyms and doing different fight coming with different injury’s and broken bones.
Now days I watch it on the TV and follow it heavily from the more famous UFC shows to the lesser known Cage Warriors and Bamma.
Top Love is of course my Family
Of course it is why wouldn’t it been anything else.
I love every single one of my children and I am so proud of how they are growing up and I really look forward to seeing what kind of people they all grow up to be.
Every single one of the kids have the chance to change the world and I truly believe one of them will.
I love Cheryl very much and couldn’t have pictured my children with anyone else, shes an amazing person and an even better mother, they really couldn’t ask for more.
So my top love is always my family.
Daddy Giraffe x
With in the little giraffe clan you will find Ellie, a 12 year old girl who is fast approaching her 13th birthday and it went by so fast that I didn’t see it coming.
Let me tell you a little bit about Ellie Jayne.
She is very clever and in the top 10 of her year, she loves to read, draw and sing…oh and did I mention that she thinks she is the queen of puns.
Some would say that she thinks she punny……see what I did there??
Anyway so when I met Ellie she was this little shy girl who was very diplomatic with her answers and was always on the fence when it came to questions where she had to pick one or the other.
Fast forward a few years and she is now 12 and comes with a new pre teen attitude complete with sighs, eye rolls and she never did it.
She likes her lie ins and her creature comforts like just sitting in the sofa with a cup of tea, a blanket and a book.
For her 13th birthday we have decided to do her a party at the local venue but trying to get out of her a theme for it is like getting blood from a stone, we don’t even know what she wants for her birthday because she doesn’t know what she wants herself.
Its been fun and a privileged for me to watch her grow from a little girl into a well behaved teen and I have no doubt she will grow into a very successful young woman with a great career ahead of her.
All she needs to do now is find a husband who eats beef like she does, can put up with her crazy dancing and can deal with all of her puns.
Good luck fella!
Daddy Giraffe x
She sent me her story of her life battles and its an incredible read, she is very brave to open up and put it out there for the world to see.
Here is Life Battles with Nicole….
Hiya im Nicole and I was first diagnosed with depression.
When I was only 15 I took a serious amount of overdose which made them think I wasn’t happy at home.
I overdosed on Insulin the first time and the with Paracetamol twice after that, this resulted in me going into care as they said I was not safe at home.
I self harmed for 3 years straight every other day when I got to the point where I couldn’t cope.
I got to the age of 18 where I completely lost my head as my sister had died and this is what the thought the cause was.
I tried hanging myself a few times but my ex partner stopped me, this is where a doctor from Shelton was called and I was diagnosed with Bipolar and Boarder Personality Disorder.
CMHT have helped me with life and my children, they have made me feel like I can do this, my head still doesn’t work right sometimes but with the support I have been given over the past few years has helped.
CMHT team are always there to help, I have suffered so long and when my children were born that was my light at the end of the tunnel now I have to think of them and not allow this illness to defeat me never again will I fall that low.
If I could offer anyone any advice who is in the situation I was it would be get some help, there is always someone there when you feel there is nobody.
Thank you very much Nicole for sharing with us and I’m glad you have come through this on a more positive side, I wish you all the best in the future.
Daddy Giraffe x