The joys of having children is you get all the love, hugs and kisses from your little ones but on the other side there is the dreaded tantrums that go from level 1 a sulk to 10 a full blown meltdown.
Children throw tantrums for all sorts of reasons and over the tiniest detail, for example my 3 year old had a full blown screaming fit the other day because he took himself of to bed because he was tired and I said goodnight which meant it was bedtime and he was not having that at all.
With tantrums comes screaming, throwing themselves around the floor and saying sometimes hurtful words or sometimes even better the funniest things..for telling Freddie off he was so angry that he grounded me with no TV and phone.
The main problem now days is how to discipline your child when they have been naughty and teaching them right from wrong, when I was growing up it was normal for if you had been naughty you would get smacked and sent to bed but now you can’t smack your children, so how do you find an effective way to discipline your child?
In my case if any of the children are naughty they are made to apologise and they will have their phones confiscated and early bed times depending on the severity of what they did wrong.
I asked a few people what they thought and its interesting to see the different methods and how differently people handle these situations.
“We have a naughty spot by the front door. If their naughty they get time out. My older daughter gets sent to her room which she hates” http://www.mummythatsme.com
“We have a feelings mat – it’s more about reflection and thinking about the consequences if their actions” http://www.thesleepthiefsmummy.co.uk
“When he was little he used to get sent to his room. Then at some point, he realised that’s where toys were. So we started a naughty corner. There was a list of rules printed in the corner” https://bobsysmum.co.uk
“We are entering tween territory where time out corners and being sent to their room (ideal for them) doesn’t work anymore so we are trying taking away privileges e.g. losing her newly acquired minimal makeup or, shock horror – her phone. For the littler ones we still use the ‘time out’ step to good effect!” http://www.wildmamawildtribe.com
“If my young son has a tantrum which then leads to bad behaviour, I find I can cuddle him out of it…! He’ll resist at first but then we’ll usually both end up laughing and it often turns out he’s over tired and so gets sent to bed earlier than usual. If it’s behaviour that I really need the kids to think about and to not repeat then I confiscate the phone/iPad.” https://thedaisypages.com
“For my teenagers, just about the only thing that works is taking away their phone or PlayStation controls. For my six year old twins their room seems the best option. I also tend to use bribery – in the name of “managing the situation” quite a lot too!” http://www.trulymadlycuckoo.co.uk
It’s interesting to see all the different methods on how people punish bad behaviour in their homes, some of these wouldn’t personally work on my tornado of a toddler but some I might try myself.
The one thing I don’t really believe in is smacking your children often just because if you’re trying to teach them to be good or they are being punished for hitting their sister does you smacking your child teach them that it was wrong to do that or re-enforce the fact that this is acceptable.
I think it’s hard today to be a parent and try to teach your children right from wrong because you have to be very careful with what you do, you can’t discipline your child too much because its been taken out of your hands and you may get in trouble so it’s a case of finding your way and making it as effective as you possibly can without losing your mind.
Kids will be kids and we have all been that naughty little kid at one point in our lives, I know I have thrown my fair share on tantrums.
Daddy Giraffe x