I’ve been sat at this laptop for a while now trying to find something to write about and all I have been able to do it google how to make my own ravioli, I may be coming down with a serious case of BLOGGING BLOCKAGE!!
For those who don’t know what this is or have ever suffered from this let me enlighten you on this.
Blogging blockage is where you know you need to write about something that we get people reading but all you can think is nothing at all then start looking at random stuff on good old google.
Usually this is a case of where you should just give up for the day and let it come to you naturally but what if it never does?
So I decided to write about writer’s block, authors suffer it and so do bloggers, so how do we fix this is there a magic trick or a site we can go to with blogging ideas.
Looking on my site I have done loads of posts about everything ranging from Mental Health to children’s cartoons and it’s nice that people go out of their way to read them and sometimes even comment.
I have also been blessed with people contacting me to be featured on my blog which gives me a sense of what I am trying to do is going in the right direction and im getting closer to my goal of raising awareness.
So in conclusion I have the perfect solution to blogging blockage and that is to put my laptop away make a cup of tea and maybe even treat myself to some biscuits.
The blogging can wait for a while it will still be here when I finally have something worth writing about!
Before I get old…well older, there are certain things that I am wanting to do and learning sign language is one of them.
When Freddie was little he used to watch a Children’s Program which I’m sure you have all heard of, this program is Something Special.
This is a program which stars Justin Fletcher, he meets with children that have special needs and explores days out which learning new things using sign language.
In this he plays a character called Mr Tumble who both Freddie and now Bethie are obsessed with to the point of when they would sing bed time stories or said thank you they would do it using sign from what they saw on the program.
After doing some research in to sign language I found that Deafness is not only the 3rd most common disability in the world but its estimated that 9 million people in UK alone are deaf.
With my dad just becoming blind and my on a quest to raise awareness for mental health I find that im wanting to learn sign language especially when im looking to go into the caring industry looking after the young and elderly.
So how will I go about this, I have learnt some basic Makaton signs from good old Youtube but I will need to do some kind of course to actually get anywhere or I will just be wandering around signing Hello and Sandwich!
So do any of my friend out there know sign language and are willing to give me pointers or guide me in the right direction on what to do.
In this multicultural world we should not only have the options of learning other languages in school but the option of learning basic sign for people in schools that are hard of hearing or when you go out into the real world and meet someone and it will make the barrier between you easier.
A short while ago I posted a piece on my top 5 hates which included things like rudeness and early morning wake up calls.
This time im going to write about the lighter side of thing so this is Daddy Giraffes top 5 Loves.
I never ever was a sweet person, I didn’t really have sugar in my tea or coffee and ate very little in the way of chocolate BUT then I had children and discovered how awesome biscuits are!!
I gained a little addiction at one point where I was always trying different types to try and find the best biscuit in the world, which happens to be in my opinion the all mighty chocolate Hobnob, an indestructible biscuit that meets all needs.
From anyone I have asked this biscuit is always within their top 3, it’s a good job I have a fast metabolism or I would be 50 stone!
I’m a big fan of musicals and always have been, I have watched most of them from The Phantom of the Opera to Annie.
My top Musical of all time up until 2 weeks ago was always The Rocky Horror Picture Show, I loved everything about it and from The Phantom of the Opera to Oliver but my favourite musical of all time until 2 weeks ago was The Rocky Horror Picture Show.
At one point was given tickets to see it live and on the front row but I chickened out as I was right in the sight of being pulled on stage and having to dress up, so I gave them away but regretted it instantly.
My new favourite musical is The Greatest Showman, I was a bit dubious about the reviews but they were all right it is amazing, I was entertained from start to finish and now listen to the soundtrack which never gets old.
3. The Lion King
My favourite Film of all time!!
This may come as a shock as I’m a big Bruce Lee fan and I even had all of his films but now at my grand old age of 34 Lion King is hands down my favourite film.
How can you not like a story about a small lion who cant wait to be king!
I have always wanted to see the Lion King musical but it’s always in London and I hate London it to busy for me so I will just wait and hope it comes on the TV at some point.
There are certain things in life that people love and hate, we are all different in all sorts of ways, these are Daddy Giraffes Top 5 pet Hates
5. Rudeness – This stems to all sorts of rudeness, like when you open a door for someone to walk through and they completely ignore you with so much as a thank you or when you in the middle of a conversation with someone and they will pull out there phone and start typing but you feel you have to keep talking anyway but feel stupid for doing so.
4. Stubbing my toe – Now I am a huge fan of MMA and when I was younger did a lot of kickboxing and MMA through the years, so im used to being punched and kicked.
With this comes broken bones, I have broken my nose twice, my right hand once and cracked my top 2 ribs but my god when I stub my toe it’s the worst pain I have ever felt!
It’s always the little toe as well which makes it worse, as well as this when you stub your toe you instantly hate the world and everything in it!!
3. Waking up early – Now this isn’t in general because im up early everyday with the kids, im talking about when its your turn for a lie in and you think great no 6am for me and you guarantee 5:30am PING! your eyes open…damn it im awake.
Now im awake you can bet that none of the babies are awake yet though because this is the day they have decided to have themselves a lie in.
2. Morning calf cramp – If you haven’t ever had this you are one of the lucky people in life, if you have had this you will feel my pain.
So you wake up and the first thing you do is have a little stretch in bed and suddenly you calf cramps up solid and spasms, you can’t do a damn thing apart from swear and try to massage it out while continuously shouting f**k f**k f**k!!
That one song – You could hear it on the radio in the morning or it could be as simple as hearing one of your children’s TV program theme tunes and then that’s it, for the rest of the day your singing it, humming it or making your own words up to it.
Yesterday I spent the day singing fashion show with my one year old…the sad thing was I was the one who started it!
So there my top pet hates, next post will be my top 5 loves.
Let me know your pet hates in life that keep happening to you.
As you grow older there’s certain things in life you cannot do now because its frowned upon.
But when you have children a whole new world opens up to you and you can do things that you wouldn’t normally be able to do or get away with.
Here are my top things you can get away with as an adult if you have children…
Now as a kid we all loved cartoons growing up and thought what we watched was far better than any of the television they has today.
As an adult you grow up and start watching adult films like horrors, action and what ever takes your fancy so you have no time for children’s TV as it seems well…weird!
But when you have children it’s the normal thing to do is get up in the early hours of the morning and put on cartoons, for instance I was awake at 5am this morning and the first thing I opened my eyes to was Paw Patrol.
If I didn’t have older children I wouldn’t have known the program Gumball even existed as I find it highly hilarious!!
Healthy eating is one of the things we try to do as adults, to lose some weight for summer or just to feel better but when you have kids this is more tricky than you think.
When you have a hungry 3 year old in the back of the car who has been sat there for a while and been very good you may find yourself treating them to a MacDonald’s…by treating them I mean treating me as I can’t possibly let them eat it by themselves what kind of parent would that make me.
Splashing in puddles
My little one loves nothing more than to do this with his wellie boots and splash away.
We have all been tempted to do this at one point but i’m pretty sure if I was to go out alone and do this now I would be taken away by some lovely people in white coats but whack a coat on the toddler and out splashing we go!
What can I say soft play is amazing, you go in there with the intention of looking after your child for adult supervision but you end up running around like a loon and sliding down the slide while your child watches for the bottom floor.
Yesterday Freddie was invited to a birthday party where its a room full of trampolines and foam pits, of course again Freddie needed supervising as he is only 3 and guess who got to go??
That’s right me!
I spend a good hour flipping, jumping and throwing Freddie into the foam pits that I pulled a muscle in my neck and soon realised I’m getting old.
Having kids has its advantages but there’s nothing more satisfying than just have a cuddle with you child while reading them a story all comfy and warm.
I have decided to do another guest post where people talk about there day to day life while living with a Mental Illness.
This week I have Terri who has kindly let me ask her some questions to find an incite of what it is like living with this illness while raising children and balancing life.
Enjoy the read….
1. Tell us about yourself
Hey, I’m Terri. I am 26 years old and a mother to 3 awesome little guys. I like reading, drawing, singing and playing games (basically most things that mean I don’t have to actually go outside) I spend a good chunk of my days with the children and doing housework or hiding out in my bedroom.
2. When did you get diagnosed with Mental Health issues and what was you diagnosed with?
I was first diagnosed with Depression when I was 11 years old. After many years of trial and error we all later found out that it wasn’t actually Depression but I in fact had a Borderline Personality Disorder, to this day I still have to have regular tests and what not just so the doctors are 100% sure they’ve picked up on everything.
3. How does this effect your everyday living?
Sometimes I can’t function like a normal adult should be able to, sometimes I can’t get out of bed, sometimes I can’t get dressed, sometimes I can’t leave the house, sometimes life feels that hard for me I struggle to even say a few words. Sometimes I have to lock myself away from the world and people because I am on a roller coaster of emotions and the thing that could have triggered me is literally something as small as a dirty tea spoon.
4. How do you keep yourself calm in stressful situations?
Exercise, I kid you not, no matter where I am if I feel something is really stressing me out and I feel I might start panicking or having a random anxiety attack I will get up or stop whatever I am doing and start doing jumping jacks, or jogging on the spot… I have also been known to drop down at my parents house before and start doing crunches.. Crazy I know, but it’s something that I have found really has been helping… even if I do look like a complete weirdo in public.
5. Do you feel people’s opinions have changed towards you since you were diagnosed?
I think a lot of people don’t know how to treat me, so they treat me like I’m broken. Some people see me as something they need to fix, which really isn’t the case, you can’t fix me.. It’s just who I am.. Me as a person hasn’t changed but I think it does help some people understand why I am the way I am sometimes. I did initially fall out and lose a few friends because they didn’t know how to act around me, they didn’t know what they could say, couldn’t say.. And some people just flat out refused to accept that I had a problem and said that it was just an excuse for me to not be in full time work (which is something I do want eventually when I’ve got a hold on things)
6. Why did you start blogging?
I don’t get out a lot, I’ll be honest here, I don’t interact with people outside of my house as much as I should be, and I thought I’ll blog, I’ll give people an insider’s view on what it’s like living with something that can literally cripple me in seconds.. Hopefully so people can understand me a bit more, and not freak out if they think they’ve said something that offends me.. I kinda want to normalise my issues in the hopes that maybe someone else will look at me like I’m normal for a change.
7. What are your future goals?
I want to be a teacher. I want to get a hold of all my mental health issues, I want to be able to control myself in stressful situations and I want to go back to college and become an English teacher to maybe teach abroad some day… It’s a bit of a pipeline dream to be honest, because I don’t think I will ever 100% have a hold of my issues so that I’ll be able to function in that kind of setting, but it’s something I can try to aim towards personally.
8. Tell me something good about yourself?
Hmm, Bit of a hard question since I spend majority of my time bringing myself down… Sense of humour? I have a pretty dark sense of humour but I’ve been told I’m pretty funny as well.
Thank you once again Terri it was very brave for you to open up like this and I wish you all the best in the future.
If you want to read more about Terri you can see it on her own blogging page…
With more and more people watching YouTube these days and all of the videos that are not suitable to watch, How do you know what and who to let your children watch. Here are Daddy Giraffes top 5 YouTubers suitable for your little ones.
5. Mr Tumble
We all know who Mr Tumble is and yes after a few episode he is very annoying with his spotty bag and Aunt Polly act but what he does teach is sign language to all children, easy enough for my 3 year old to pick up and he can still tell you words in sign to this day.
There is a reason he has been around for so long and that is because he is bright, colourful and not afraid to make a fool out of himself.
No I know what you’re all thinking who the hell is Blippi??
I didn’t know who it was either until Freddie was saying he wanted to watch Blippi a few times and I searched him.
For those who don’t know who he is, he is an American YouTuber who dresses in Orange and Blue with a bow tie and cap, he teaches children about all sorts of things while going to places like the zoo, soft plays and museums. He does all of this whilst combining fun and comedy to help teach children about the world.
3. Baby Bus
Out of all the YouTubers Freddie and Bethe could have picked they chose this Japanese programme and they absolutely love it, this is called BabyBus.
This program teaches children everything from how you should behave at the dinner table to colours and what to do in serious situations like fires and earthquakes.
The characters are all animals and the songs they sing will have you singing them all day without realising it at the most awkward times.
2. Steve and Maggie
Steve is an English teacher who chose to teach children through YouTube with the help of a puppet of a Magpie called Maggie who does magic.
He does it all, he sings songs, teaches children words and the meanings of them along with getting the children to repeat words.
It’s fun, catchy and I have to admit it works as Freddie has learnt new words to add to his vocabulary where we didn’t even know where it came from.
He has a song called Fashion Show which my 1 year old walks around singing and she’s only seen it once while passing.
Ryan’s Toy Review
If you have children you will know who this is.
This is a YouTuber called Ryan who started around 3/4 years old and all he was doing was simply reviewing toys…that’s it!
The children love it and he is viewed millions and millions of times per day, now he reviews more expensive toys, does games and challenges and now Vlogs with his parents which has taken them to a whole new level.
I have to say there’s a reason this little boy gets the views he does and it’s because kids can relate to him and it hooks them in.
No nonsense…no swearing….just a kid opening toys…simple!
Happiness, a quest we are all on and something we all crave.
So is there a right path to happiness and if so how do I get there?
Looking on the internet and speaking to various people they have their own beliefs on how happiness is achieved so let’s explore these shall we.
Fitness – A day started with exercise they say will give you energy through the day and make you feel good inside and look even better on the outside.
This sounds fantastic apart from a few things…
At 34 and with 5 children I can think of nothing worse than starting my day with a jog. Running past the neighbours all sweaty and out of breath while they try to say good morning and stop for a chat and the thought of running on a treadmill getting nowhere for 30 mins doesn’t sound that appealing either to be fair.
I will tell you what sounds appealing to me that thought is dropping the kids off at school and having a coffee with no daddy…daddy…daddy.
A bit of peace and quiet so I can get on with things and have a few hours quality time and by quality time, I of course mean cleaning up after the hurricane that happened in my house.
Healthy Eating – I agree with you are what you eat and in my case I should be a Dominos employee.
I love the idea of eating healthy with salad and fresh ingredients then ending up with a dish that tastes far better than any takeaway can offer.
The truth is fresh ingredients are very expensive and don’t last very long, when you have a large family it’s hard to prepare a fresh healthy meal everyday, it’s not impossible but it is difficult.
I can’t cook!!!!
I’m sure I can make a salad but who wants to live off salad for the rest of their lives, so yes your meal looks lovely and fresh so while you take a picture of your master piece I’m just going to take a selfie with the delivery guy because I burnt the salad!!
Religion – A very touchy subject that many shy away from, but I’m not many people so here we go.
People who find religion seem to be the happiest people in the world who are willing to knock your door in the pouring rain with a smile to ask have you heard of god.
Yes in fact I have Mary, did she send you today?
I am all for people having something to focus on and believe in, if it makes you happy and gives you a purpose in life then all the power to you.
I’m sure god does love me what about the other 7 of me??
I think happiness is what you make of it, you try to make yourself look better and appear better to other people but does that truly make you happy.
What makes me happy is watching TV with my family, having a lie in until 7 am, having the occasional takeaway and knowing all the kiddies are safe and sound sleeping in their beds before I go to sleep.
I hope you all have happiness in what ever way you find it, maybe we should stop searching for happiness and just let it happen and find us.
All of these words have the same meaning, the fact that you are the female parent of your child.
To me those words mean something else, as a son and as a father looking at my children and their mom together. The word mommy takes on a life of its own.
The day you or your partner is pregnant is the start of motherhood, You have grown this human being from scratch, nurture it, love it, carry it and despite being uncomfortable, the sleepless nights, sickness and soreness you continue to put yourselves on the back burner to deliver this new life and welcome them into the world.
The day arrives and you have felt this baby grow and move inside you for 9 months and it’s time to see your beautiful baby but to do this you have to go through the most unbearable pain and you do it because you know why?
Because you are a Mom!
Hours and hours of pain, sweat, tears and blood you bring your baby into the world and the second you see/hold them you’re in love…now the real job begins because you are now in charge of this little life and your role is to give them the best life you can.
Now as a son when I was growing up, I never really appreciated my Mom and what she had done for me for all these years and what she and to go through and do without to make sure me and my siblings were happy, fed and looked after but now I’m a father myself and I look at the mother of my children I’m in awe!!
The love I have for my children is unquestionable but the sheer love I see between a mom her kids is a beautiful thing to watch, everything she once had has been pushed aside and she has now put herself in second place. She entirely focuses on making these children as happy as she can.
Sleepless nights followed by early mornings but still even though you’re exhausted you still smile and play at stupid o’clock in the morning.
In the day you’re mommy, nurse, cleaner, chef and general dogs body to the tiny demanders, you’re shattered and can’t wait for bedtime but you still read that one last storybook before sleep with voices and actions.
Through sickness you power through because being a mommy isn’t a part-time job. It’s one that requires your attention 24/7 and regardless of how unappreciated you feel that smile and those small cuddles make it all worthwhile.
So monnies you are all doing a great job and just know you are the real superheroes!