Ask a Daddy

Ask a daddy.

Woman go through pregnancy and labour to bring the baby into the world and sometimes choose to do the feeding to, they can share their experiences with other moms who will understand there journey and pain.

Men are in general in the dark a little on this subject so I have decided to go out on a limb and offer any moms a question to ask a daddy.

No questions off limits, just ask a question and I will explain it from a daddies point of view and based on my own experiences.

I had some wonderful responses from mummy’s from all over and i would like to share them with you all.

What did it feel like the first time you held your baby? 

Love like ive never felt before, I remember holding my first born and looking at him thinking im going to love you for as long as I live and just look after you. 

Both babies were so small and at the same time it was like oh my god im responsible for looking after this tiny human, how will I cope but I had a strong woman beside me who guided me through it all.  https://mygirlsandmesite.com

Whats your usual daily routine?

It starts with getting up with my 3 year old and of course hes always hungry, followed by the rest of his brothers and sisters.

Get them ready for school, play with Bethie until its her nap time then pick Freddie up from school while trying to do some blogging or housework.

My older children come home from school, its then craziness and loud until its finally its bedtime.  https://www.ourseasidebaby.com

Do you help with the night time feeds?

Since it was my first baby I threw myself in there and after I was shown what to do and how to hold him and wind him, I insisted on doing all the night time feeds and sorting them when they cried in the night.

I used to sing Freddie with songs from The Beatles…I think he may of just been pretending to be sleeping so I would just stop.

I enjoyed it but sadly it took away bonding time between between mummy and Freddie which I feel guilty for but they now have a close bond. https://freddiesmummyuk.com

Do you feel that two weeks paternity leave is enough for dads to bond with baby, assist mum after birth and adjust to life as a family?

Yes in a way of it more than enough time to bond with the baby to get some quality daddy and baby time.

No in the way of mom doesn’t get the rest or help she deserves, what people dont understand and I didn’t is that yes women get maternity leave but straight after they have given birth they dont get much time to rest.

They have to do everything for the baby, themselves and do everyday tasks while in pain and extremely tired. https://www.boorooandtiggertoo.com

Do you think that men can TRULY understand how it feels to be pregnant and give birth? And does it make you feel sad or relieved that you’re excused from that aspect of parenthood – or both?! 

Good question!

Cheryl was pregnant in the summer and poor thing was uncomfortable ALL the time, she could sleep, she was too hot, I felt helpless because in them aspects there is nothing much that I could do.

Watching her give birth was amazing yes it was sad to see her in such pain but to watch how strong she was and that she did in on such little gas and air showed me not only how tough she was but what she was willing to go through to bring this baby into the world to be loved and I will always be thankful to her for that.

But no..I stubbed my toe once and was close to calling a priest for my final goodbyes, I couldn’t imagine what its like for woman. https://www.mummyslittlemonkey.com

What one thing would you like your partner to understand (you know those moments where you may butt heads) ?

That im not doing these things to make you mad, yes I gave her some crisps 20 mins after you said no but she looked at me all cut, what was I supposed to do?  https://www.sineadlatham.com

What’s the best thing about being a Dad? 

Watching them learn something for the first time and how proud they look.

Weather it walk, counting or writing their name you have bot experienced it for the first time together. https://www.lyliarose.com

What are your favourite activities to do with your kids?

We would usually go on walks, trips to the park and recently found out the younger two 3 and 1 love the water so we went swimming quite a lot. 

Now the baby insists on walking everywhere we try to get out as often as we can. http://lifewiththebusbys.com

Do you think that the role as Dad is as important as the role of a Mum?

Yes I think it definitely should be.

I know moms carry the baby and deliver it but the dads helped create the life and care for the mom through the whole way.

They should both be respected as each other by their children.

Thank you for being a part of my post today ladies and I hope you all have some sort of an incite to a dads world. https://thismummyrocks.com

Daddy Giraffe x 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Feeling guilty for having mental health

On my journey to raise awareness for people to open up and talk about Mental Health so that this taboo subject is broken I have always said never have the feeling of guilt for suffering Mental health.

But today I broke my own rule.

I’ve said in a previous post that I am concerned about my young boy Freddie possibly having Autism.

He is showing some of the key signs for a while such as lack of concentration, memorising certain things and just repeating them over and over, also he wont look at you when you’re talking to him.

Freddie’s mom has had her suspicions for a long time but I was in denial and thought it was just Freddie being Freddie, but today was different.

After a long time of Cheryl asking for help to have him assessed which fell on deaf ears, I had seen it for myself as I tried to get him to tell me about his story of the week and he wouldn’t look at me while telling me or his nursery worker.

I decided enough was enough and spoke to his class key worker and expressed my concerns about Freddie and also to the SEN of the nursery who will give us the help we need from this point on.

Afterwards all i could think and do was to blame myself for this.

Was this my fault?

Did my own Mental Health do this or have some sort of effect on the poor boy?

I couldn’t help but feel responsible for this happening, even with reassurance from Cheryl that it’s 100% not my fault I still shed a tear and felt so bad.

I know deep down that there is nothing I could have done to cause this or prevent this if it turns out that it is in fact Autism.

All I know is I will love this little boy regardless of what happens he is my little superhero!

Daddy Giraffe x

 

 

 

 

Mood Stars the story woman behind the stars

 Today I get to interview a woman who has one of the best ideas which is called  My Mood Stars, A set of stars that helps children express their feelings, this is something close to my heart as my son has troubles expressing himself sometimes.
Please take the time to read about Wendy, the woman behind the stars…
Could you please tell us a bit about yourself

I am a retired child minder from Maidenhead in Berkshire.  I retired in September 2017.

I love to sew and as a child minder, I often made relevant resources for my minded children out of felt.

When the Early Years Foundation Framework became mandatory in March 2012  I wanted to make a toy suitable to cover all of its area of learning:

PSED, Physical Development and Communication and Language.

 
2. What made you gave you the idea of what you created?

I had already made some little felt stars for a story sack for acting out the nursery rhyme Twinkle Twinkle Little Star.

I had the idea to stitch expressions on the stars depicting different moods and emotions (PSED) they could be held and played with (Physical Development) and make props for story sacks (Communication and Language)

I made these available to other child minders who then used them in their settings.

It was during my last inspection in 2015 that my Ofsted inspector urged me to develop the stars further as he saw a market for the stars not only for mainstream children but for children on the autism spectrum.

 
3. How does this affect your day to day life now?

Once I retired, I had the time to develop the stars further by inventing a board onto which they could pop on and off.

The Stars became My Mood Stars and the board – My Mood Stars board.

The wonderful thing that has come out of developing My Mood Stars is learning about children on the autism spectrum and children with mental health issues. Children’s mental health is a growing concern as more and more children are diagnosed with ADHD, depression and anxiety.

It is through reading and connecting with people who have first-hand experience with these issues that I have been able to offer My Mood Stars as a resource as well as a toy.

 
4. How has what you made been persevered so far?

Advertising My Mood Stars across different platforms has given me a lot of positive feedback. My Mood Stars are gaining a lot of attention from viewers on social media from The National Autistic Society to head teachers of primary schools.

I have been approached by several on line stores who wish to advertise My Mood Stars. My Mood Stars have appeared the family magazine Mummy & Me and will be featuring in PACEY the Professional Association for Childcare and Early Years and Autism Parenting Magazine next month. So it’s all very exciting!

 
5. Whats it been like on this personal journey of yours?
This adventure has been all the more poignant for me as I was an abused child. I was forced to say out loud between the fragile age of four and eight that I was useless and unworthy.  So I think it’s fair to say that I can relate to a lot of children who are going through the same sort of treatment and if My Mood Stars can help any child /families with their suffering, then I shall be very happy!
 
6. If you could give someone in your position any advice what would it be?
Today more than ever, there are many mums starting their own business in various fields. I would say to them that life is short and to not feel guilty about wanting to do something for yourself as it can only have a positive effect on one’s family. I’m not saying that it’s all plain sailing but life is too short for what ifs and that four year old who one feels guilty about rushing his bedtime story will grow up respecting his mummy who went out and lived her dream!
 
7. What inspires you and gives you motivation to move forward?
This may sound like a cliché, (probably because it is), but my children inspire me.  They are all in their twenties now.  They had a tough time before I met ‘My Forever’ husband.  I’ll leave it like that. But they have grown into good people who are backing me all the way through this project.  Two of them are still at home (and they still leave their towels on the floor!) but hey, one can’t have it all!
 
8. Can you tell us something that you like about yourself?
What do I like about myself? I like my strength and I like my compassion. I will go above and beyond to help anyone whether it be a family member or a complete stranger. I like to think that one reaps what they sew – and that adage has done me well so far.
Thank you Wendy for taking the time to talk to me today and let us have an incite into the world of Mood Stars.
I wish you all the best on your journey personally and with your business.
If you would like to purchase any of these fantastic items then you can by contacting Wendy on the link below.
Daddy Giraffe x 

3AM

 

I’m one for writing poems or reading poetry, I certainly don’t class this as any kind of mind-blowing work or something to make you think it just came to me and I wrote it down.

It’s based on a series of dreams I was having when I younger and a little more angry I guess.

Anyway I hope you enjoy it.

 

It’s 3am

 

I watch the door open and you walk in towards me again

Out the bed I get, I’m ready for you this time!

I swing and miss, every shot I throw at you stops within inches of you

Breathing heavily, I stop and look at you

 

I’m looking into those dark, empty, cold and soulless holes

No emotion

No blinking, just a smug look on your face as you know what is next

“I know why you’re here!”

Fists clenched so tight that the blood trickles through my fingers to the floor.

 

I scream and shout as I’m blinded by furry and pure rage

Shouting and swearing I can feel every hair on my body stand on end

Feel my blood boil to the point that my head might just explode

I HATE YOU!      

I f**KING HATE YOU!

 

I’m on fire but it’s the coolest I’ve been

I’m full but constantly want to feed

I’m confused but aware what it is going on around me

I see you but can’t hear a single thing around me except for my own heartbeat

 

I break the barrier of fear

Breath like it’s the most natural thing to do in the world

Focus on whats in front of me and it sinks in

I’m looking at me!

You are me and I am you!

 

With a single blow I split your head in two

I close my eyes and darkness falls over me

 

Opening my eyes it was just a dream

Catching my breath I look at the time

 

It’s 2:49am!