Mental Health Guest Post With Realmomblog

As part of my Mental Health quest to show people it’s OK to speak openly about these issues and its nothing to be embarrassed by.

Realmomblog has agreed to open up and tell her story about how she deals with life managing family life and Severe Anxiety Disorder.

Enjoy the read…

 1. Tell us about yourself
I’m a 33 year old wife and mother of 3.  I run,where I
chronicle living with severe anxiety disorder, as well as a ton of
parenting stuff.  My hobbies include reading, writing, and hiding from
my children while eating snacks I don’t want to share.

 2. When did you get diagnosed with Mental Health issues and what was you
  diagnosed with? I was diagnosed as a teen with Severe Anxiety Disorder.

 3. How does this effect your everyday living?
Anxiety can be a lot of things, on a good day, you’re just a little on
edge, on a bad day you can have panic attacks where you feel like you’re
dying, it’s hard to breathe and you feel an overwhelming sense of dread.
Basically, whenever you have one of these panic attacks your body says
“Woah, that was scary lets never do that again!”  even though all you
did was something mundane like walk into a store.  Anxiety can be
crippling, always being on edge, always worrying, your body suffers from
the constant flux of fight or flight hormones, cortisol and adrenaline
to name a few. Maintaining a high degree of vigilance or awareness for
an extended period of time is mentally and physically exhausting.  It
becomes easier to stay home or keep to yourself to avoid these panicked
feelings, leading to isolation, loneliness, and potentially depression.

4. How do you keep yourself calm in stressful situations?
Grounding techniques help a lot.  Deep Breathing helps a lot as well.  A
grounding technique gives you a focus point to concentrate, like
something you can feel, smell, taste, see, or hear.  Deep breathing
works similarly by focusing on taking slow deep breaths.  There are
other methods but these two are the simplest and most commonly used.

 5. Do you feel people’s opinions have changed towards you since you were
I think they do,  it’s hard to quantify it but it’s quite frustrating.
For this reason I’ve avoided telling people in the past, and this just
led me to feeling even more alone and anxious.

 6. Why did you start blogging?
I actually started my blog to help me overcome some of my anxiety and
it’s been instrumental in allowing me to not feel so alone, in fact I
have encountered the exact opposite.  Everyone has been very friendly
and supportive in both the blogging and mental health circles.  And in
talking to new people in both and research for articles on mental health
awareness, anxiety is surprisingly common with nearly 1 in 4 Americans
experiencing it.  I started blogging to help myself and others
experiencing Severe Anxiety Disorder.

7. What are your future goals?
My blog is really growing very fast right now, and I’m constantly
working on new content, which keeps me very busy.  I’m currently working
on releasing a free course and e-book about Anxiety Disorders and I hope
to be able to release it by early summer!

 8. Name something good about yourself.
I’m a very loving person!

Thank you very much for doing this guest post it was very brave of you to stand up and talk publicly about these issues, I wish you all the best in the future!

If you would like to see more from Realmom then you can from the links below..


Daddy Giraffe x



Living with BPD guest post with Terri

I have decided to do another guest post where people talk about there day to day life while living with a Mental Illness.
This week I have Terri who has kindly let me ask her some questions to find an incite of what it is like living with this illness while raising children and balancing life.
Enjoy the read….
1. Tell us about yourself 

Hey, I’m Terri. I am 26 years old and a mother to 3 awesome little guys. I like reading, drawing, singing and playing games (basically most things that mean I don’t have to actually go outside) I spend a good chunk of my days with the children and doing housework or hiding out in my bedroom.

2. When did you get diagnosed with Mental Health issues and what was you diagnosed with?

I was first diagnosed with Depression when I was 11 years old. After many years of trial and error we all later found out that it wasn’t actually Depression but I in fact had a Borderline Personality Disorder, to this day I still have to have regular tests and what not just so the doctors are 100% sure they’ve picked up on everything.

3. How does this effect your everyday living? 

Sometimes I can’t function like a normal adult should be able to, sometimes I can’t get out of bed, sometimes I can’t get dressed, sometimes I can’t leave the house, sometimes life feels that hard for me I struggle to even say a few words. Sometimes I have to lock myself away from the world and people because I am on a roller coaster of emotions and the thing that could have triggered me is literally something as small as a dirty tea spoon.

4. How do you keep yourself calm in stressful situations? 

Exercise, I kid you not, no matter where I am if I feel something is really stressing me out and I feel I might start panicking or having a random anxiety attack I will get up or stop whatever I am doing and start doing jumping jacks, or jogging on the spot… I have also been known to drop down at my parents house before and start doing crunches.. Crazy I know, but it’s something that I have found really has been helping… even if I do look like a complete weirdo in public.

5. Do you feel people’s opinions have changed towards you since you were diagnosed?

I think a lot of people don’t know how to treat me, so they treat me like I’m broken. Some people see me as something they need to fix, which really isn’t the case, you can’t fix me.. It’s just who I am.. Me as a person hasn’t changed but I think it does help some people understand why I am the way I am sometimes. I did initially fall out and lose a few friends because they didn’t know how to act around me, they didn’t know what they could say, couldn’t say.. And some people just flat out refused to accept that I had a problem and said that it was just an excuse for me to not be in full time work (which is something I do want eventually when I’ve got a hold on things)

6. Why did you start blogging?

I don’t get out a lot, I’ll be honest here, I don’t interact with people outside of my house as much as I should be, and I thought I’ll blog, I’ll give people an insider’s view on what it’s like living with something that can literally cripple me in seconds.. Hopefully so people can understand me a bit more, and not freak out if they think they’ve said something that offends me.. I kinda want to normalise my issues in the hopes that maybe someone else will look at me like I’m normal for a change.

7. What are your future goals?

I want to be a teacher. I want to get a hold of all my mental health issues, I want to be able to control myself in stressful situations and I want to go back to college and become an English teacher to maybe teach abroad some day… It’s a bit of a pipeline dream to be honest, because I don’t think I will ever 100% have a hold of my issues so that I’ll be able to function in that kind of setting, but it’s something I can try to aim towards personally.

8. Tell me something good about yourself?

Hmm, Bit of a hard question since I spend majority of my time bringing myself down… Sense of humour? I have a pretty dark sense of humour but I’ve been told I’m pretty funny as well.

Thank you once again Terri it was very brave for you to open up like this and I wish you all the best in the future.
If you want to read more about Terri you can see it on her own blogging page…
Daddy Giraffe x

Pasta Kidz & Petz Adventures Book Review

If there is two things that my 3 year old Freddie likes in this world it’s Pasta and books.

So when I came across this children’s book called Pasta Kidz & Petz Adventures I jumped at the chance to review the book.

The book is written by Bryony Supper a professional actress whose talents range from TV appearances to stand up comedy where she writes her own material.

She now uses her comedy in writing and has come up with the Pasta Kidz and Petz Adventures which is a joy to read, aimed at children  aged 5 – 7, my 3 year old enjoyed this very much and I have no doubt I shall be reading it to him a fair few times before bed.

Pasta Kidz & Petz Adventures
Pasta Kidz & Petz Adventures

The book is about children who all have names relevant to pasta such as Sarah Spaghetti, each child has a pasta catchphrase like Sarah’s is “Spaga Spoodle Spo!” which of course Freddie found hilarious.

Along with their Pasta Petz they get up to Adventures, in this first book called The Inventing Tubes Sarah Spaghetti and Marc Macaroni have a problem when they created a crazy pasta ball and try to contain it.

Pasta Kidz & Pasta Ball
Pasta Kidz & The Pasta Ball

The illustrations are good quality and along with the story, this kept Freddie entertained with all of the rhymes and funny words.

Trying to pronounce some of the sayings are like a tongue twister in themselves which had myself and Freddie laughing.

This was a hit with my child who loves his bed time stories and trying to find books that grab his attention are hard to come by but this one did just the job, we cant wait to read the second one.

If you would like to know more about Bryony and her children’s books then you can find them on the link below.

Thanks for reading another Daddy Giraffes review.

Daddy Giraffe x


YouTubers that are ok to let your children watch

With more and more people watching YouTube these days and all of the videos that are not suitable to watch, How do you know what and who to let your children watch. Here are Daddy Giraffes top 5 YouTubers suitable for your little ones.

5. Mr Tumble

We all know who Mr Tumble is and yes after a few episode he is very annoying with his spotty bag and Aunt Polly act but what he does teach is sign language to all children, easy enough for my 3 year old to pick up and he can still tell you words in sign to this day.

There is a reason he has been around for so long and that is because he is bright, colourful and not afraid to make a fool out of himself.

Mr Tumble
Mr Tumble

4. Blippi

No I know what you’re all thinking who the hell is Blippi??

I didn’t know who it was either until Freddie was saying he wanted to watch Blippi a few times and I searched him.

For those who don’t know who he is, he is an American YouTuber who dresses in Orange and Blue with a bow tie and cap, he teaches children about all sorts of things while going to places like the zoo, soft plays and museums. He does all of this whilst combining fun and comedy to help teach children about the world.


3. Baby Bus

Out of all the YouTubers Freddie and Bethe could have picked they chose this Japanese programme and they absolutely love it, this is called BabyBus.

This program teaches children everything from how you should behave at the dinner table to colours and what to do in serious situations like fires and earthquakes.

The characters are all animals and the songs they sing will have you singing them all day without realising it at the most awkward times.


2. Steve and Maggie

Steve is an English teacher who chose to teach children through YouTube with the help of a puppet of a Magpie called Maggie who does magic.

He does it all, he sings songs, teaches children words and the meanings of them along with getting the children to repeat words.

It’s fun, catchy and I have to admit it works as Freddie has learnt new words to add to his vocabulary where we didn’t even know where it came from.

He has a song called Fashion Show which my 1 year old walks around singing and she’s only seen it once while passing.

  1. Ryan’s Toy Review

If you have children you will know who this is.

This is a YouTuber called Ryan who started around 3/4 years old and all he was doing was simply reviewing toys…that’s it!

The children love it and he is viewed millions and millions of times per day, now he reviews more expensive toys, does games and challenges and now Vlogs with his parents which has taken them to a whole new level.

I have to say there’s a reason this little boy gets the views he does and it’s because kids can relate to him and it hooks them in.

No nonsense…no swearing….just a kid opening toys…simple!

Ryan toy review
Ryan toy review

Daddy Giraffe x

*Images taken from google images*


Finding work with Mental Health issues

Recently I have been looking to get back into work, it has been 4 years since I have last worked and im finding it more difficult to try to get back into work when you have to declare you have a Mental Illness.

I have filled in the world’s supply of applications and when it comes to the medical sections im finding it hard to fill it in as ive never had to before so when it’s written down on paper in front of me it’s a little disheartening and makes me anxious of what an employer will think when looking at the application and seeing that I have a Personality Disorder.

Would they feel it’s a risk to employ me?

Would they give me an interview because they had to but treat and speak to me differently?

Does this condition limit the work that I can actually do?

These are questions ive never really thought about before as I couldn’t face leaving the house longer than 30 mins let alone going to work in a place full of new people and new situations.

When I have finally plucked up the courage to do something about it there are certain obstacles I will have to overcome.

I’m interested in Care work and I know there is a lot of it out there it’s just a case of somebody taking that risk to employ me and give me the chance to show my worth and how hard I can work.

The decision to go back to work wasn’t a case of money but of self-worth, I have been with this condition for a long time now and I refuse to let it define me and dictate what I can and can’t do!

If I start work and I just cant do it then at least I can say that I tried, ive spent so long finding myself that I at least owe it to myself to try to get back to normality.

So im asking you, if you have a Mental Illness how do you manage finding work or if you do work as well how do you find that healthy balance.

I am not my Illness and this is one step closer to finding the real me!

Daddy Giraffe x

*These images where taken from google images*






Best friends or worse enemies

This post believe it or not isn’t about two adults at war, no in fact it’s about my 2 little angels Freddie and Bethie who can’t make their minds up if they want to be best friends or worst enemies.

Freddie is 3 and Bethie is 1 so they are at a similar age gap where they can play and communicate and boy do we know it!

Bethie is a very bright 1 year old who loves to play with her brothers and sisters, shes full of kisses, cuddles and snot. But as cute as she is don’t be fooled by them big blue eyes, she has a very mischievous and naughty side.

Her naughty side likes to scratch, pull hair, blow raspberry’s and of course bite as you can see from this picture where I tried to have a sneaky cuddle with my baby girl.

What a nice Girl
What a nice Girl

Freddie is a boy of comfort he is happy watching his favourite show BabyBus with a cup of tea but when he is in one of them moods he is what we like to call our little tornado, he fights, jumps, swings, teases his siblings and sees how far he can push his luck with his cheeky chappy smile.

Fireman Freddie
Fireman Freddie

Now they can be best friends sitting nice and quiet side by side watching TV or even building a den in the living room where Freddie will come to get Bethie to join in the fun which is lovely to see.

Then wait for the screaming where Bethie has leaped on Freddie’s back attacking him and trying to fight everyone in the place but our Freddie is aware that if he does something wrong Bethie will take the fall as she cannot talk her way out of it.

These pair of munchkins have years yet to grow a relationship lets just hope it’s not one where they are constantly fighting and find out they are best friends.

But despite how they are throughout the day, every night they will walk up stairs together before bed and Freddie will say goodnight to his baby sister before he goes to sleep and she is the first person he asks for when he’s awake before her making sure she has breakfast waiting.

Awww they do love each other really!!

Daddy Giraffe x





Balancing multiple personalities

It’s been a while since I was diagnosed with Personality Disorder, this comes in different forms mine happens to be a mixture of both Bipolar and Schizophrenia which you can imagine balancing this is tricky.

So how do you balance multiple personality’s and how many can one person have?

Everyone has all kinds of emotions like anger, sadness, guilt, happiness and even just numbness.

But can you imagine having these all constantly changing through the day/night 24/7 when you wake up in a great mood and half way feel why am I even bothering.

Whats the main emotions that im having trouble balancing…


The only way I can describe this is like inside me is a caged animal that’s just constantly  rattling the cage to get out and occasionally it will escape and trying to get it back inside is a task in its self, even on my calmest days I can still feel it deep inside pacing around just waiting for the next change to break free.


This comes in many forms from just waking up feeling a bit low to questioning my own being and would it make any difference if I was here or not.

The problem with sadness is that it spreads like wildfire and whoever is around you picks up on this and it automatically brings their mood down and before you know it there is this dark cloud throughout the house that you struggle to shift.


Not just happiness but over happiness, being silly to the point of annoying and hyper to the point of when I crash I could sleep for days.

The world is all butterflies and sunbeams, there is no negatives and tomorrow will always be a better day which I see can be quite annoying when it’s over the top.

Balancing these at a rapid pace it draining but there are methods to balance this out and im open to suggestions on how to make things a little easier.

Medication helps a little and family helps even more, I don’t know maybe I will take up yoga…

Daddy Giraffe x





Path to happiness which way is it?

Happiness, a quest we are all on and something we all crave.

So is there a right path to happiness and if so how do I get there?

Looking on the internet and speaking to various people they have their own beliefs on how happiness is achieved so let’s explore these shall we.

Fitness – A day  started with exercise they say will give you energy through the day and make you feel good inside and look even better on the outside.

This sounds fantastic apart from a few things…

At 34 and with 5 children I can think of nothing worse than starting my day with a jog. Running past the neighbours all sweaty and out of breath while they try to say good morning and stop for a chat and the thought of running on a treadmill getting nowhere for 30 mins doesn’t sound that appealing either to be fair.

I will tell you what sounds appealing to me that thought is dropping the kids off at school and having a coffee with no daddy…daddy…daddy.

A bit of peace and quiet so I can get on with things and have a few hours quality time and by quality time, I of course mean cleaning up after the hurricane that happened in my house.

Healthy Eating – I agree with you are what you eat and in my case I should be a Dominos employee.

I love the idea of eating healthy with salad and fresh ingredients then ending up with a dish that tastes far better than any takeaway can offer.

The truth is fresh ingredients are very expensive and don’t last very long, when you have a large family it’s hard to prepare a fresh healthy meal everyday, it’s not impossible but it is difficult.

I can’t cook!!!!

I’m sure I can make a salad but who wants to live off salad for the rest of their lives, so yes your meal looks lovely and fresh so while you take a picture of your master piece I’m just going to take a selfie with the delivery guy because I burnt the salad!!

Religion – A very touchy subject that many shy away from, but I’m not many people so here we go.

People who find religion seem to be the happiest people in the world who are willing to knock your door in the pouring rain with a smile to ask have you heard of god.

Yes in fact I have Mary, did she send you today?

I am all for people having something to focus on and believe in, if it makes you happy and gives you a purpose in life then all the power to you.

I’m sure god does love me what about the other 7 of me??

I think happiness is what you make of it, you try to make yourself look better and appear better to other people but does that truly make you happy.

What makes me happy is watching TV with my family, having a lie in until 7 am, having the occasional takeaway and knowing all the kiddies are safe and sound sleeping in their beds before I go to sleep.

I hope you all have happiness in what ever way you find it, maybe we should stop searching for happiness and just let it happen and find us.

Daddy Giraffe x

*This image has been taken off google images*




Sight from the outside looking in

The past year as we all know pretty much sucked for me and there was a lot of changes in my personal life and with family, one of the big changes was after battling diabetes for 20 years my dad has lost his sight and is now blind.

This wasn’t a quick thing over night, his sight was deteriorating over time and then one day happened where he just couldn’t see anymore.

Now having sight your whole life and then suddenly losing it must be a scary thing to happen and you have to learn to adjust and adapt to it quickly, the simplest of tasks you take for granted seems like it’s very own mountain to climb, like trying to eat your dinner when you physically can’t see your plate or just walking to the kitchen to put the kettle on by having to feel your way through the house incase doors are closed or things are in your way.

Going out to the shops, doctors or even in the garden was a task as now he can’t see what’s around him and has to go off hearing alone or having to be chaperoned by someone else to guide you around so you don’t get lost.

As I watch him trying to adapt to the situation and make the most of a bad situation, I’ve noticed how all of a sudden people treat him differently and how much support is lacking from companies and people in general.

Taxis and Public Transport – Obviously being unable to drive, he now relies on taxis to get him to his appointments at the hospital, even after he has rang the taxi office and tells them where exactly he is and that he is blind and to look out for the white stick…3 taxis then pull up wait 5 mins and drive away, after the last taxi comes the driver shouts “Hopkins!” when Dad answers the driver says “didn’t you see me” to which my Dad responds does the white stick not give it away.

Now even though the driver now knows he’s blind he didn’t offer any help into or out of the taxi or even help him in the right direction, once the ride is over the change was placed into his hand without being told how much it was and he just had to hope they gave him the right change.

Supermarkets – This is from both staff and people in general, I’ve seen people barge him out of the way, jump the queues in front of him thinking he wasn’t with anyone and wouldn’t notice and even make comments. Help isn’t offered from staff at all with getting around the supermarket or help with picking items or even asking if he needs assistance.

Since losing his sight he went into himself for a while as he was trying to adjust to this new life but now he has come to terms with the fact and is very independent with it, he has managed to make cups of tea in his own way and still insist on doing some household tasks like washing up the dishes and moves around the house with little effort.

Now he wants to raise awareness for people in his situation that are having to adjust to a new life without sight.

I will keep you all updated on his journey and see where this new life takes him

Daddy Giraffe x






Pull along Bumble Bee review

When having children the task to pick toys for your kids is a pain and expensive, me and my partner have always had a thing with the kids playing with wooden toys because they are sturdy and I like the look of them so the pull along Bumble Bee was perfect.

Our youngest daughter Bethie is 1 and like any baby/toddler her attention span of toys is  limited and she gets bored easy moving on to the next thing quite quickly.

With Bethie now walking around she would carry toys around the house until we came across this cute little pull along Bumble Bee.

Bumble Bee
Bumble Bee

The Bumble Bee came and it was exactly what we hoped for, it was bright, colourful and its springy antennas were a great touch.

Attached to the Bee is a long yellow rope so that when it’s pulled along the wings go around and the toy makes a clicky noise which our daughter finds highly amusing.

Bethie absolutely adores this toy, she pulls it along with her everywhere she goes the poor Bumble Bee has been thrown, dropped, bitten, had juice spilled over it and still it looks as shiny as when we first got it which is very impressive as any other plastic toy would break within hours.

Bethie and her Bee
Bethie and her Bee

As you can see Bethie loves her Bee and has even named it herself as Bobby.

I would highly recommend this toy to any parent who is looking to get their children a safe, fun appealing toy for any occasion, they will play with it for hours on end.

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Daddy Giraffe x