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I’m one for writing poems or reading poetry, I certainly don’t class this as any kind of mind-blowing work or something to make you think it just came to me and I wrote it down.
It’s based on a series of dreams I was having when I younger and a little more angry I guess.
Anyway I hope you enjoy it.
I watch the door open and you walk in towards me again
Out the bed I get, I’m ready for you this time!
I swing and miss, every shot I throw at you stops within inches of you
Breathing heavily, I stop and look at you
I’m looking into those dark, empty, cold and soulless holes
No blinking, just a smug look on your face as you know what is next
“I know why you’re here!”
Fists clenched so tight that the blood trickles through my fingers to the floor.
I scream and shout as I’m blinded by furry and pure rage
Shouting and swearing I can feel every hair on my body stand on end
Feel my blood boil to the point that my head might just explode
I HATE YOU!
I f**KING HATE YOU!
I’m on fire but it’s the coolest I’ve been
I’m full but constantly want to feed
I’m confused but aware what it is going on around me
I see you but can’t hear a single thing around me except for my own heartbeat
I break the barrier of fear
Breath like it’s the most natural thing to do in the world
Focus on whats in front of me and it sinks in
I’m looking at me!
You are me and I am you!
With a single blow I split your head in two
I close my eyes and darkness falls over me
Opening my eyes it was just a dream
Catching my breath I look at the time
It requires a lot of efforts from the parent’s end to transform their child into a responsible person. As a parent, you have to put consistent efforts to raise a happy and healthy child with high social and emotional intelligence. From the very day when your child is born and until they start taking their responsibilities on their own, you have to make sure that you do every possible thing that can enhance their overall development.
Parenting is a complex task and you have to get ready to give your 100% to it if you want to improve your child’s life. It’s very important for you to take necessary steps to foster the emotional intelligence of your child. Experts believe that a child with high emotional intelligence can achieve their goals easily because they are blessed with better attention skills which make it easier for them to learn new skills effortlessly.
In other words, if you want your child to perform exceptionally well in school or college, then it’s crucial that you start working towards their emotional development. On the other hand, children with low emotional intelligence struggle with issues like anxiety and depression, and also face a lot of relationship problems. In layman’s terms, a child with poor emotional intelligence struggles a lot in their life because they find it utterly difficult to handle different kinds of situations.
So, if your child is also struggling with emotional issues, here is how you can encourage their social and emotional development.
Communicate With Your Child
It’s very important for parents to communicate with their child frequently to understand them in a better way. If you are unable to understand your child, you will never be able to help them. So, you need to discover ways of enhancing your communication with them. For example, you should try to enjoy your food with them regularly so that you can find an opportunity to talk to them during meal time. In addition to that, if you love going for morning walks ask your child to accompany you.
Working parents find it difficult to take out time to talk to their kids, so they can make the most of out of mealtime and morning walks to spend some quality time with them. In addition to that, they can also spend time with their children before they go to bed. In short, try to talk to your child as much as you can to understand their feelings and problems.
Never Hurt Their Feeling & Emotions
If in case your child is experiencing an emotional problem, then you should put efforts to understand it properly. Ask them what is it that is creating a problem for them. For example, if you have a teenage child, try to figure out how is their relationship with their friends. If in case, your son/daughter says that they had a terrible fight with one of their friends in school, then it’s important for you to react appropriately. Yes, rather than scolding them, you should try to ask the reason behind the fight. And even if it was your child’s fault, you shouldn’t start shouting at them. Rather than behaving rudely with them, you should try to teach them how to behave responsibly in a social setting.
However, if your child is dealing with an emotional problem like anxiety or depression and you are unable to help them, then it’s crucial to take professional help. You might be observing that sometimes your child starts behaving either very rudely or in a weird manner. However, it’s very important for you to understand that such behaviours are quite common among children suffering from emotional issues and they don’t do anything intentionally. Even experts at CHARTER Harley Street believe that you are not at all accountable for how you feel, but you can easily control your subsequent behaviour.
Improve Your Emotional Bond With Them
Having a strong emotional bond with your child can bring a lot of happiness in your entire family. Children who are emotionally attached to their parents share all the important things with them, which make it easier for parents to guide them properly. However, if you do not know anything about your child’s life, you won’t be able to provide them with that much-needed guidance. So, if you want to strengthen your emotional bond with your child make sure that you start expressing your love and affection to them. You have to make them feel that you really care about their feelings so that they can start sharing them with you. Well, it’s quite true that you love your son or daughter like anything, but it’s equally important to show it to them.
So, once your child starts relying on your for their emotional needs, you can really bring a big difference in their life by giving them right advice for their problems.
Improve Your Child’s Self Awareness Skills
You should always try to encourage your child to improve their self-awareness skills because that makes it easier for them to understand their feelings and emotions. So, if you don’t want their emotions to affect their behaviour badly, it’s important for them to have a high self-awareness.
In addition to that, your child must also have high self-management, which is nothing but the ability to control their behaviour and mood, so that they can achieve their goals effectively.
Develop Your Child’s Social Awareness Skills
A child with high social awareness knows how to understand others opinions and feelings, and then responds to them accordingly. In other words, social awareness is nothing but the ability of your child to analyse and understand others’ perspective and then react to a situation accordingly.
So, as a parent, it’s your duty to teach your child how to respect other people’s feelings and opinions so that they can interact effectively with them.
I want to touch on a subject that is dark, scary but happens all to often and I can’t help think that if we listened more and people were to open up and started talking about how they are feeling that maybe we could save some lives.
I’m talking about Suicide!
Where you get to such a dark point in your life and mind that the only way you see out of everything is to take your own life which is so so sad.
You only have to look in the news and you see that even the most famous people have their demons to fight and sometimes it just too much with losing people like Avicii, Chester Bennington and Verne Troyer.
This just shows that Mental Health doesn’t care if your rich, poor, male or female it has no preference of age or race.
Throughout history you will find stories of people taking their own lives some of the most rich and well-known:
- Vincent Van Gogh (Painter)
- Kurt Cobain (Singer)
- Cleopatra (Pharaoh)
- Robin Williams (Actor/Comedian)
- Ernest Hemmingway (Writer)
These are just some of the famous people who make the news and history but there are millions of normal everyday people who have battled and lost their lives over the years that go unmentioned.
These individuals are just as important, there are human beings with feelings, dreams and once hope but somewhere down the line they lost their way.
After looking online at the rate of suicides in just this country alone surprised me, did you know…
- In 2016 5,668 suicide were recorded and 75% of them were male
- One person in fifteen has attempted taking their life at least once
These are sad statistics and yet the male statistic didn’t surprise me at all.
Being a male that has contemplated killing myself multiple times I put it down to the fact that I wasn’t talking to anyone about how low I was feeling and how close I was to just vanishing
In my case it was a mixture of male bravado that sharing my feeling would be a sign of weakness and what would be the point anyway because nobody would care or listen to anything I had to say just putting down to stress or attention seeking.
Luckily for me Cheryl found out what was going on, sat and listened to me helping me in the right direction but sometimes people feel like there is nowhere to turn and if they go to the doctors they are just given a pill and sent on their way.
Now days there are organisations that are made for you to talk to and they will just listen, sometimes that’s all you need is someone to listen while you’re talking instead of brushing you aside.
Still people are feeling that alone that they feel there is no other way dispute being surrounded by friend and family you can still feel like the only person in the world.
So if you know me or even if you don’t and you feel so alone and low that you even think about doing something to harm yourself them please tell me!
I will listen to you,, I will let you do all the talking and help you every step of the way because nobody deserves to be in that position in their lives.
I can’t thank Cheryl enough for what she has done for me but without people like her I wouldn’t be here to write you this story.
Be kind to yourself and just keep in mind that talking and listening could save a life.
If your affected by any of the things I’ve spoke about today here are some links that can help you in your time of need.
If you want to just talk about your Mental Health and get advice from others in your situation then I run a Facebook group called Mental Health Family please feel free to check it out.
Daddy Giraffe x
Throughout our existence there have been events that have happened where people view things differently then along comes the Conspiracy theories where people are convinced there is more behind it than just the simple answer.
So I am going to give my take and views on some of the biggest Conspiracy Theories there are.
You don’t have to agree but that’s the whole point of it….
Elvis is Alive
- This comes from millions of fans who don’t want to let go and admit that the King of Rock & Roll is dead.
- Elvis was possibly the most famous person in the world, you would be able to spot him in a crowd of thousands of people so where is he actually meant to hide where he wont be recognised.
- If I was to fake my own death it certainly wouldn’t be in the bathroom or on the toilet as some would say.
The moon landing was faked
- It was a race to who would land on the moon first America or Russia, America landed on the moon first but not once have Russia claimed the landing was faked.
- The moon landing was in 1969 at that time it would have cost more to fake the landing than to actually send people to the moon itself.
- If it was indeed faked then hundreds of NASA employees would have had to keep the secret, can you really see this happening?
Aliens exist and are being hidden from us
- This I believe is true, in this vast universe its hard to think that we are the only living species on in the entire galaxy.
- Area 51 a top-secret base in the middle of nowhere, a place where they hold god knows what because it would cause world-wide panic.
- There are a lot of faked videos and pictures but once in a while you hear stories from RAF or Air Force pilots where they have come across such things and UFO’s and again it’s just brushed away.
- Take the pyramids for example, these huge structures were built around 2630 BC a time where all they had were slaves. These stones are perfectly cut and placed in a way that you couldn’t get a razor blade between them and yet they have stood the test of time, yet these were done by slaves, malnourished and beaten slaves hmm.
- Do I think there is a group of the most powerful people in the world meet up….yes!
- Money is power in this world and unfortunately we don’t get a say in anything or any decisions..e.g..going to war to how you look after you children.
- Do I think it’s made up of huge celebs, No but I think they use them to influence peoples way of thinking like branding or views on political events.
- With the most powerful people owning all aspects of the world and brands it’s easy to influence you like sheep or take your mind and thoughts away from real life events like war, famine and the fact that we are slowly losing control bit by bit.
These are just are just a few Conspiracy Theories floating around, if you look there are so many from who shot JFK to how the world was created.
I might be completely wrong but what to know im just a giraffe trying to get by in this crazy world but at least it’s food for thought for you readers.
Daddy Giraffe x
Battling Mental Health can be one of the scariest things for any individual to go through, I had the chance to talk to a blogger called Talk and Cheese who agreed to share her journey with us and show how things can change.
Mental Health is still a big issue and we are seeming to see it everywhere at the moment that sadly people are turning to the wrong things without opening up and letting people know that they are suffering so they can get the help they need and deserve as human beings.
I asked Talk and Cheese a few questions about her life and her battle with Mental Health and how it affected her professional and personal lifestyle.
So please take some time to read the story from this brave individual.
Please can you tell us a little about yourself
I’m 43 years old and live with bipolar 2.
I was a TV presenter for over twenty years, presenting mainly news and football. I retired last May so that I can look after the two boys in my life, namely my precious 5-year-old son, MK, and my wonderful, supportive and understanding boyfriend, who I refer to in my blogs as Handsome Doc. He’s ok with that title as you can probably imagine!
I always knew I had some form of mental illness. Right from when I was a little girl. My brain was in turmoil for much of the time.
I swung from being horribly flat and lost, to being deliriously happy and uncontrollably high.
I was far more anxious than a little girl should be, and convinced myself that my parents regretted having me, and even that I was adopted. I’m not, and they didn’t.
When I was high, everyone just put it down to the fact that I had a big personality (although the true me was actually really shy and insecure), but on reflection, we all now recognise that there was more to it than that.
How did you go about getting help and did they diagnose you with ease?
At the age of 19 I had a complete breakdown, so went to see my GP. She was very nice, and I believe tried her best given the information that was available about mental health back then, but in fact, the big box of Prozac and suggestion that I take up a sport really didn’t cut it.
I battled on with the diagnosis of depression and anxiety for years, but at the age of 29, was referred to a private mental hospital where I remained for six weeks. Not only did it drain my parents of all their savings (I carry enormous guilt over that), but it actually had limited impact on mental well-being.
Again, I was being treated for depression and anxiety. I knew this wasn’t right, but believed that there was nothing more I, or they, could do.
In 2007 I moved to London having been invited to present a fairly high-profile sports programme, and things deteriorated fast at that point.
I had still been on antidepressants on and off over the years, and had received hours and hours of therapy, but the depressive episodes were lasting for longer, and I was out of control with what I now know to have been hypomania. I made bad decisions with men and I drunk to excess, to the point where my therapist at the time advised me to go to AA. I did go a few times but was in such denial that I stopped turning up for meetings, and carried on drinking.
I’m afraid to say, I was also doing coke.
It was around this time that I was once again referred to the private mental hospital, this time in London. I was referred due to my mood, not for my alcohol or drug abuse.
It was only at that point, aged 35, that I received an accurate diagnosis of bipolar 2.
Incredibly, stats show that on average it takes ten and a half years to receive a correct diagnosis of bipolar in the UK, and that before that point, sufferers will receive an average of three and a half misdiagnosis. A pretty sad state of affairs, considering how devastating an illness it is to live with, particularly when it goes untreated.
I’m now on a fairly hefty combination of drugs (40mg Citalopram, 250mg Lamotrogine and 5mg Aripriprazole), some of which have some horrible side effects.
I don’t to be honest. I barely sit down, I have the concentration of a nat, and my mind is always thinking. Actually, I now use blogging as a means of winding down and letting go, but I guess that’s still a form of work, so I’m not sure if that counts!
Kind, a huge heart, loyal, brave, funny, beautiful, sensitive, a great mummy and strong. When they say strong, they refer to the way in which I battle with bipolar in order to try to lead a meaningful life, and to be the best mummy I can be.
I tend to suffer more from depression than hypomania, but for some reason or another, the latter has taken the lead over the past few months. I still feel it’s manageable and have no plans to seek professional help at the moment. My meds and past experiences see me through for now. There’s no denying it’s a tough fight to win though, and that the gremlin does his best to manipulate me. I’ve got a 100% success rate of beating him in the end though, and I intend to keep that up.
No I’m not.
Finally please can you tell me something you like about yourself
What if I told you that you could have cake delivered not only to your door but posted through your letterbox with your mail, your own designed cake with your own ideas and delivered before a celebration or a certain day?
“Your crazy!” I hear you say?
Today is the day my eldest turns 14, It doesn’t seem that long ago where he was playing with toys instead of spending his days on YouTube hours chatting to his friends online who he only just saw 20 minutes ago.
Harry has had a tough few years through bullying and has finally found himself settled in a new school and thriving in all subjects.
There is one subject he exceeds in this is Science, he has an obsession with this as he want to create a career around this, so much so he has learnt the periodic table of by heart which took some taking.
I came across a company called Bakerdays, a cake makers that specialise in creating personalised cakes designed to be sent to you through the mail in a box that will fit through your letterbox.
I spoke to the lovely staff as I couldn’t find any designs that suited him so I asked them if they could make a cake with the Periodic Table on or would it be too much trouble, to which they said leave it to them and took my details.
Few days before Harry’s birthday and I receive an email saying they have dispatched the cake and they hope he enjoy’s it.
That very morning it arrives in a box, I open it with excitement and I couldn’t be more please with the result, It came in a lovely presented tin and was better than I imagined.
It was fresh, smelled amazing and looked even better.
Would Harry like it though?
By the look of his face I would say he did!
Thank you Bakerdays for all of your hard work of making this teenagers day.
If you would like to order a personalised cake for any occasion then you can by visiting https://www.bakerdays.com
You can get 15% off if you use this code DADDYGIRAFFE15
Daddy Giraffe x
My 3 year old never stops from the moment he wakes up to the second its announced that its bedtime, the only time he is still and settled is when its time for a story before bed and this week it was the story of Benjy Bunn’s Busy Day.
This story actually reminds me of Freddie and the mischief he is oblivious to when he feel like he is helping us out around the house.
The story is about a helpful little Bunny called Benjy…
Benjy starts the day deciding that he is going to be helpful but this doesn’t go to plan for the poor bunny as everything goes wrong.
He makes poor choices and a lot of mess while coming up with in his mind great ideas to be helpful for mommy from baking a cake to cleaning his own room all ends in disaster for which Benjy is oblivious too.
Benjy makes his way into the garden to try to help Mommy and Daddy which Freddie found highly amusing as he is pulling up plants and spraying water every where because he’s having too much fun.
Illustrations and Readability
The illustrations in the book are good with it being very colourful to catch the eyes of children preventing them from getting bored easily.
The writing is exactly the kind that Freddie likes and relates to which it the story rhymes throughout the book from start to finish making it easier for the child to understand I think.
Although a short story it is exactly what it is aimed for, a quick read before bed or a calm five minutes of cuddle time where they can interact enough without losing interest.
For me I like to know more about the book’s to find out where they came from and how the ideas came to life for us to read.
This is a lovely tale as the book was originally written by Bev Scott Prior who read it to her children at the local nursery in 1970.
This was then typed by her husband 45 years ago and brought back to life in 2018 by their grandson James Burns, keeping it’s old-fashioned charm.
Release dates and information
This wonderful book is due to be released to the public on 15th my 2018 in the UK.
I will look forward to this coming out and the follow on’s as im sure my son is also.
Daddy Giraffe x
Coming to end of my series getting to know you and this week I’m getting to know quite a popular blogger called Three Time Daddy.
I kindly asked him if I could interview him and of course being the cool guy he is said yes.
So here it is getting to know Three Time Daddy:
After setting up a Mental Health group and seeing other people’s situation throughout social media I’ve come to the realisation that nobody is perfect and that’s ok.
Every single person is different in so many ways and I think we are to focused on changing not only other people to suit our needs but we are so quick to change ourselves to please other people that we don’t even know.
Every day we see on the TV and in magazine of people who look almost flawless and we are made to believe that this is how we should be, this is how we should look and this is how we should act.
But in real life that is not how they are at all, their life isn’t the perfect dream and it has taken them hours of make up to just take that photo, I guarantee when you wake up next to them in the morning they don’t look like that.
Nobody is perfect in any way, even the most famous people in history have their flaws for instance did you know that these people suffered with Mental Health but still made history.
- Abraham Lincoln – Suffered with Anxiety and Depression
- Charles Darwin – Suffered from Panic Attacks and Agroaphobia
- Charles Dickens – Suffered Severe Depression and Bipolar
- Beethoven – Suffered with Bipolar
- Winston Churchill – Suffered with Bipolar and Manic Depression
- Virginia Woolf – Suffered Depression and Psychosis
It’s not all about the mental side either, you should be comfortable in the skin that you’re in and if you’re not then change yourself but on your terms and the reason is you’re doing it for yourself.
I have put on a little bit of weight, since having kids and giving up sports im not up to 13 stone but im comfortable with the way I look and the size I am.
The way I see it is there is more of me to cuddle into.
Get to know and love yourselves, that is the way to true happiness, live and love life whatever you’re doing.
Weather it’s watching your kids grow, building a successful career, singing or even just enjoying going out and laughing with friends.
For all we know we only get one life so why not fill it with things like love, excitement, helping people and trying new things.
Except who you are and the emotions you have because nobody is better than you are, you just need to figure that out.
Daddy Giraffe x
*Image taken of google images*
I have to admit I am very Pants and didn’t see that I was nominated for the Versatile Blogger Award.
I don’t have a speech prepared as I wasn’t expecting it, at the moment I’m just trying to fight back the tears, I’ve got so many people to thank and so little time before the music plays me off.
What is the Versatile Blogger Award?
The award is a way for bloggers to recognise and show their appreciation of others’ blogs and the work they put into them. Blogging regularly and well is a serious commitment and it’s great to show appreciation of others’ dedication to their interests or causes.
To accept the award, a blogger should do the following:
- Thank the person who nominated you.
- Link to that persons Blog
- Nominate 15 other bloggers for the award – I know, I found this hard as I don’t even had 15 friends.
- Share 7 facts about yourself with the person who nominated you.
7 Facts about Daddy Giraffe
- My Favourite film of all time is The Lion King
- I’m a huge MMA fan and follow it closely
- I have a fear of spiders, some will say it clowns! I don’t fear them I just don’t trust them….Stupid Clowns!
- I have 4 different colours in my eyes
- I am a proud daddy to 5 awesome children
- If I could invite any famous person living or dead for dinner it would be Bruce Lee
- My favourite animal isn’t actually a Giraffe it’s believe it or not a Rhino
So I guess its time to nominate people so if your names on the list below then I have passed this onto you…sorry but It had to go to someone.
Thank you very much again Muddly Mum
Daddy Giraffe x