When you were a kid the six-week holiday would seem forever and consisted of lie ins and going out with your friends do activity’s and causing trouble…or that was just me. If anyone has read… More
Ever since I was small I was told about certain thing do do and not to do if I was to avoid bad luck like breaking a mirror would give you 7 years bad luck, which got me thinking what other superstitions do people have and do throughout the day and are they even aware they are doing it.
So I asked a few of bloggers what superstitions do they go by and do they believe in bad luck or even do their best to try and avoid it.
Some of the answers I had heard of before and some are completely new to me so feel free to read and tell me what you think.
“I salute magpies and I remember when I was younger if there were 3 drains together you would step on the first one , spit on the second and jump over it to the third because it was bad luck otherwise (gross now I look back!) ” http://mummyof5miracles.com/
“I refuse to walk under ladders at any cost. I hate it so much!” https://mygirlsandmesite.com/
“My husband is Italian. In Italy they believe an open umbrella inside the house brings bad luck so it’s strictly no drying umbrella open in the house after rain and no playing with it for the kids in our house! ( I think it’s crazy but hey ho)” https://www.cosmomum.co.uk/
“My grandma always used to say touch wood and find a piece of wood to touch when she was talking about her luck or avoiding something bad happening – I’ve carried on the tradition.” http://www.welshmum.co.uk/
“My auntie always said throw salt over both shoulders if you spill it, in case the devil jumped shoulders. I do always say hello to Mr Magpie.” https://www.nelliepompoms.co.uk/
“If I drop a knife on the floor I have to leave it and get someone else to pick it up.” https://rachelbustin.com/
“I try to avoid walking over 3 drains in a row. If I do, I have to jump up and down 3 times. It’s something my brother told me when we were kids and I still do it!” https://www.householdmoneysaving.com/
“Everything! No walking under ladders, no shoes on the table, say hi to the magpie ‘where’s your wife and children’ ‘see a penny pick it up'” http://www.wildmamawildtribe.com/
“My sister in law will only leave a house through the door she entered it by! I don’t share her superstition but still feel wrong if I don’t abide by this!” https://raisingbadgers.com/
“I won’t walk over groups of three manholes covers – I blame an old girlfriend for that one who was very superstitious” http://www.ideas4dads.com/
“I’m not superstitious I think if you walk under a ladder and it falls on you that’s just karma for walking under it 😂😂” https://www.mummaandhermonsters.com/
“I always put my socks on before trousers it sounds bizarre but when I don’t it just all seems wrong and I wonder if this is just not meant to be! I also lock and unlock car a couple of times as feel otherwise I’m almost asking it to be broken into! It’s like telling the car lock lock lock!! I only ever use the same colour matching pegs on clothes on the line they just have to match if they don’t it’s like asking birds to poo on them!” https://www.justaveragejen.com/
“Never sleep in front of a mirror! I always turn any mirrors away or cover them if they are overlooking my bed.” http://everafterwithkids.com/
I never knew there was so many superstitions but after reading these Im still convinced that im not superstitious in the slightest.
Let me know if any if these ring a bell or now that you have read these you have developed new superstitions (if so im sorry).
Daddy Giraffe x
*This image was taken off google images*
You hear a lot of it now days at thats single parents, now this could be a single parent acting alone bringing up their children alone or two separate parents raising there children the best they can from two separate locations.
I didn’t see myself being a single parent, although I do not live with my children I see them nearly everyday and make sure that they have everything that it needed.
Although the children have the best of both worlds and the love of both parents it isn’t always the case and a lot of people dont actually know what its like being a single parent.
I asked 2 single parents there thoughts on what it is like and asked the pros and cons and the responses was interesting…
“Being a single parent is difficult , especially when it’s something that you didn’t choose yourself and all you wanted was for your children to be a part of a loving family. When you are forced to be a single parent it can be very difficult to adjust with the constant questions from the children asking why their daddy isn’t there and even in my case completely blaming me for the situation, even giving nasty comments and not knowing how to make it better for them. One of the toughest things is once the children are in bed and you’re sat on your own without anyone to share your day with. If you’re poorly you have no choice but to drag yourself out of bed to get up with the little ones and there’s no time to rest and nobody around to help to make you feel better. Parenting can be tough sometimes and some days you just need someone to put their arms round you and tell you that you’re doing ok because you constantly question if you’re even a good parent and if being by yourself is enough for them. Whilst it’s a difficult thing to go through and adjust to I would walk to the ends of the earth to make sure my children are happy”
The second person…
“Tbh it is easier but very difficult positive I have no one to argue with of how I bring up my kids, my kids are happier we can do what we want kids are getting my full attention so they are happier negative I have to do all night shift and day shift I’m tired kids are missing there dad I’m the only one to deal with tantrums it’s not like I can pass them onto anyone”
I think you have to do the best in the worst situation you didn’t see yourself in, in my case your parental instincts kick in and you adapt to the situation to try and keep some normality in the their lives.
To all you single parents out there who are struggling on your own with your children and feel like your not doing so well, you are doing a great job keep doing what your doing and it will get easier.
Make memorys because believe me when your children are older they will remember who was there for them and the best times in their lives.
Daddy Giraffe x
What a year this has been already but I’m finally at a point I think where I’m coming to terms with how things are and how I will move on and make the changes needed.
If you follow me at all you will see that this year has been a rough one for not only me but my family as me and Cheryl decided to part ways, this to say wasn’t easy as I wanted other things and Cheryl was heartbroken.
But I’m a believer in time is a healer and through a lot of rough patches we both are starting to see some light at the end of the tunnel and are both coming to terms with what has happened.
The first thing that was done was moving out of the family home and back into the house with my parents.
Now this wouldn’t be so bad as its 5 minutes from where my kiddies are and I could help around the house here as my dad is adapting to losing his sight so I can do the odd jobs that need doing around the house.
I’m currently looking for a place of my own so I can have the kids a couple of nights a week and take the burden off Cheryl a bit giving her a bit of spare time.
Relationship with Cheryl
At first like most break ups there was a lot of arguing and days where we couldn’t be in the same room let alone the same house.
But despite how we didn’t see eye to eye we always put the kids first and that was the main goal to make it as normal as possible.
If you know Cheryl then you will know that she is an amazing person, kind, generous, very honest and a fantastic mother.
Always putting the needs of her children before her own happiness is something I admire always and I will forever be grateful she brought my children into this world.
We have both grown through this experience and have turned corners, we can actually sit and have adult conversations and even a laugh.
Seeing the children
I tried to make this as easy for the children as I possibly could and tried to get some normality back into lives which is easier said than done.
Educationally they are all thriving, winning awards and smashing everything in front of them which we couldn’t be prouder of.
Personally wise they are all happy, it was a change at first but I see them every day and always am in there lives, birthdays are coming thick and fast, we have just had Freddie’s and now we have Annabelle’s in a few days then Elizabeth Ann at the end of the month.
The kiddies have always been my number one priority and always will be, I cant wait to see how they all progress and grow in the years to come where they find they their own paths to take in life.
Whats the way forward from now?
Time to focus on me now I think, first thing is first im feeling a bit more confident now so I may try going back to work with the all clear.
Finding a new place is second, some space for myself and my children to relax would be nice.
Me time, just focusing on me, my health and getting better and in the right frame of mind to battle the world again, I watched Cheryl at her lowest point and she dragged herself up through everything and decide enough was enough and that she was worth more and she would make that change.
That is inspiration right there if not anything else!
Daddy Giraffe x
As we all know the end of school term has happened and im sure most of us are already at the point of what are we going to do to entertain the children for all these weeks ahead.
So how did the kids do at the end of the school year and what do they have to look forward to in the new school year?
If you know Harry you will know that he has had such a rough time when it comes to school.
With the last two schools he had to leave after being bullied so we picked a new school out-of-the-way for him hoping this would be the break he needs and boy did Harry take this opportunity with both hands and run with it!!
A brand new Harry appeared, he put his head down and worked his ass off.
Getting a completely new set of friends which he is actually able to call friends, he goes out to the local town centre and enjoys his time instead of hiding away.
School life he has smashed it, after getting a place at the University of Wolverhampton for a few days to study he was given not only the change to experience new things and learn at a higher level but to gain a new level of Independence on which he thrived in.
The letter arrived that Harry had once again won an achievement award but in another school this time and of course it was for Computer Science 2 years in a row.
I cant wait to see what Harry manages to do with year 10 and the things he can go on to achieve in the future.
Ellie Jayne continuous to surprise us, she is one of them people who just has everything and they don’t even know it.
Shes beautiful, funny and incredibly clever but she’s so modest with it.
We are always getting emails for Ellie getting house points, her parents evenings are perfect and she has a close-set of friends in which shes loyal to.
At the end of this term she has had ups, downs and heartache but despite this all we get the email as Ellie had won an achievement award, her very first.
It could have been for anything and we didn’t tell her what it was for but to her surprise she got the award for Maths and was also nominated for English.
The end of year rankings came in and Ellie has been 1st, 7th, 8th and 10th so we waiting as the email came in and she nailed it coming 5th!
Annabelle has had a good year, she has really bucked her ideas up and knuckled down with her work and has grown in confidence.
She is our happy-go-lucky Annabelle, her school report was a lot better and much more positive.
We watched her sports day where she usually comes last but she was so positive and gave it her all.
One thing you know about Annabelle is she loves to sing and she has been putting in the work to win a place in Young Voices where they get to sing in an arena with other schools with a celebrity.
Shes worked so hard and got so far so fingers crossed for her.
What a year this boy has had.
From going into nursery not being able to mix with others and just stay by himself, he has come out a completely different boy.
Confident, talkative and has learnt so much like counting, writing his name and learning to share which is a big thing for Freddie.
His time has finished at nursery and in September he goes to his new big school and he cannot wait!
After having a few taster days he keeps asking when its time to go, after just celebrating his 4th birthday it really hits home how fast this little boy is growing.
Madam Bethie has come on leaps and bounds.
He amazes me everyday, she speaks so well and is so confident in everything she does.
She is a happy little soul with a big personality to match, you cant help look at this girl and fall in love as she carries around her bunnies.
But sadly to me in September she goes to nursery which means my baby girl is growing up fast.
Best make the most of the holidays before they start on new years and new adventures.
Daddy Giraffe x
Having 5 kids age ranging from 1 – 14 there is always a book to read, especially the little ones before bed so I was thrilled to review a children’s book called Real giraffes wear high heel shoes.
As I am known as Daddygiraffe and they are my little giraffes this book sounded ideal so just before Freddie’s bedtime this was the story of choice.
Firstly when we start the book and see a picture of a Sami the giraffe wearing high heels Freddie thought it was hilarious and said he’s to tall to be wearing them.
Sami is a giraffe who loves to wear high heels but tries to join in with the other group of giraffes but something always goes wrong for poor Sami.
despite the problems Sami loves his heals, love the way they look and the way that they feel and goes about his day.
True to himself Sami keeps trying to join in with the other giraffes even inviting them to him birthday party which he didn’t think anyone would go to but Freddie was positive that Sami could do it and would get friends in the end.
It’s hard to keep a very energetic 4-year-old in one place and to get their attention for long enough but this seamed to do the trick.
The book from start to finish is full of brightly colourful illustrations with lots going on to grab his attention.
The story is easy enough to follow and understand also sending a message that its ok to be who you want to be and who you are, that you don’t have to change to please other people.
So after reading the book what does Freddie think, an imaginative 4-year-old.
Freddie loved the idea of animals in high heels and enjoyed the book throughout giving him a giggle along the way.
I asked him once the book was finished if he could rate the book out of 10 what would it be and he rated it…..
100 out of 10!
Where can I get this book?
If you would like to read this book for yourself to your children you can find it on the link below, I highly recommend it.
Daddy Giraffe x
After taking a break from mental health post for a while but no I am back with a brave guest post with Marti who has let us have an insight into life with Mental Health.
Here’s Mental Health with Marti….
Can you tell us a little about yourself?
I’m Marti, I’m non-binary meaning I’m not really male or female. I’m 29 years old. I work for an IT consultancy company in Lincolnshire and in my spare time I play guitar, take and pose in photos and occasionally write.
What got you into blogging?
There are two main things that got me into blogging, being non-binary and my physical health. Firstly, being non-binary is a difficult thing for people to understand, if you fit into the binary norms you have no need to think about those who do not, so I started writing about it to try to raise awareness. Secondly my physical health, I was born with cataracts, which left me partially sighted, and in 2015 I had two brain abscesses, which resulted in me needing emergency surgery. One morning I was trying to play guitar and kept dropping the plectrum, within hours I was barely able to hold anything or remain conscious and ended up in surgery the same night. It took a lot of therapy before I was able to use my right hand properly again and several months before my guitar ability was back to its previous level. Took look at me now you wouldn’t know I’d had these health problems but they are there as invisible illnesses, so the second reason is to raise awareness of invisible illnesses
When did your journey with Mental Health begin and did you get diagnosed?
I first started to notice problems with my mental health in secondary school. That’s when I really noticed that I was quite different to other people and that I had to pretend a lot to fit in. It wasn’t until I was much older maybe early 20’s that I was diagnosed with mental health problems but the mental health provisions in my area are poor and in all honesty I’m not great at engaging with services.
How does this effect your day-to-day routine?
In recent years I have gotten my depression fairly under control, so day-to-day routine activities aren’t too much of an issue. I tend to find I have problems with things that aren’t routine like going out somewhere, as it’s so much easier to stay at home where its safe. My problem tends to be more anxiety, anything different to normal can trigger it then I want to get away or avoid that thing.
What do you do to distract yourself from hard times or to relax?
My main distraction is music I’ll either pick up my guitar or I’ll put some music on and sing along. I first took up guitar at the age of 14 at this time I was self harming and not in a good place and guitar was the perfect distraction, with it being so complex and taking so long to master its kept me going for years but if I’m really bad I get annoyed with my playing ability. In that situation I put music on and sing along, there are studies that suggest singing releases endorphins and helps to lift mood and in my experience it works.
If your friends could describe you in one word what would it be?
I asked my partner and she said “selfless”
What are your future goals?
My current goals are to get to a point where I am able to work full-time, I am still suffering ill effects from my brain surgery in 2015 and not yet back to full health but hopefully one day I will be. A second goal is to become more comfortable being myself, I’ve on recently gone public with my non-binary nature and with my anxiety I still struggle but I’m improving everyday.
What piece of advice could you give someone with Mental Health?
It’s very hard to give general advice as mental health is such a wide-ranging a varying area but I would say that you need to remember that it’s not your fault you have issues with mental health, it’s an illness like any other and there no need to feel ashamed for having it.
Are you part of any groups that help?
I’m starting on a well-being course tomorrow run by the local mental health services to try to help with my anxiety but I am not a member of any groups.
Finally can you please tell me something you like about yourself.
I like my mind, it’s a little bent out shape between my mental health issues and my brain injury but on the whole it works well, I managed to complete a degree the same year I nearly died from the brain abscesses. I learn new skills quickly, problem solve well and like to think I have interesting thoughts.
Thank you very much for opening up and sharing with us Marti it was very brave and I enjoyed getting to know you a bit more
If you like to follow Marti and her journey through life you can do by following these links below.
Daddy Giraffe x
With all the events of the past few weeks even months ive been questioning things trying to find out who I am.
Am I a bad person?
I like anyone else has made mistakes in their lives but to what degree to you stop and thing am I a bad person?
Relationships I have been in have broken down with me offering very little in emotional support because I have just been unable too although I do try my best.
It must be hard to deal with someone so has a problem being emotional unstable and switching form mood to mood.
If I cant love myself than how can I love someone else and that has been the problem, I come across selfish & uncaring.
Am I a good daddy?
The one thing in my life I try to be is a good daddy, I do everything I can to make sure they know daddy is there and that they know I love them very much.
They are happy, polite and never go without.
But what kind of example am I settling to my children when they can see me bouncing from mood to mood.
Will they think that this is the normal way to be and start to treat others this way, I dont want that, its not the life I want for any of my children.
I want them to grow up respecting people, partners, friends and people in general while leading a normal life.
My Bad Choices and Decisions
Because of my personality I make decisions on the spot and to be honest it never always turns out the way I want it.
Example: I was once at a restaurant and it was time or desert it got to me and I ordered Lemon Meringue it wasn’t until it got to the table that I remembered I hate Meringue!
I have no filter so when I argue things are said that an never be taken away and feelings are hurt no matter how it was meant to come out or not it still has happened and people get hurt.
Sometimes im not in the right frame of mine and in my own world and I wont even know your there so you feel invisible, again its not on purpose but it happens.
What happens now?
Number 1 is I take my medication with no excuses on why I missed it, instead take it regularly and on time.
Try to show more love to my children, I give all my love as it is but I want them to know daddy isn’t bad and this is not the way to be when you grow up.
Be a better person, talk to people, take their feelings into consideration even starting on something simple like listening.
I try to be a good person but sometimes it hard, so how do I find me?
Focus on the here and now, focus on the positive and in time hopefully you see a new me.
What this space!!
Daddy Giraffe x
As the years go on we find that more men are using care products such as moisturizer and creams to look after their skin and put back the years of ageing.
With this comes the hard choice of which brand is the best to use?
I had the opportunity to test out some men’s care products from Admiral, as I waited for the package to arrive I did a little research of who is Admiral?
“Admiral is the original British sports brand with over 100 years of sporting heritage. The brand’s roots are in football and is rightly credited with kicking off the popular replica kit market in the early 1970’s.”
I received the package through the post and was excited in testing out all off the goodies that was contained within.
Antioxidant Moisture Balm with Artichoke Extract
Firstly the smell of this is very clean and fresh.
To be used twice a day, now ive never used anything like this before so I didn’t hold much hope but this stuff is amazing!!
My skin feels softer a lot less harsh and within just days you can tell the difference in your skin and the way you feel.
Detoxifying Face Scrub with Cucumber Extract
I’ve never used a face scrub before so this was an experience for me.
It smelt fresh and lathers up well with little effort.
It is like washing your face with little beads in soap, but when I had washed my face I could instantly tell the difference.
My face felt cool, clean, fresh it was like having a brand new face.
This is a product I shall be consistently be using as the effects you can feel on your face are almost immediate.
Shampoo and Conditioner with Avocado Extract
This smelt amazing, im not big on Avocado myself but this smelt really good.
It lathered up well and left my hair looking really shiny and smelling nice, I wasn’t expecting much from this to be honest but I was pleasantly surprised and will continue to use this product more often.
Body Wash with Black Quinoa
I loved this!
Everything about it, from the smell of it to how it didn’t make my skin dry or irritated afterwards.
The best thing I found about this product was the smell is long-lasting hours after you use it.
I’m funny when it comes to body washes and soaps but this is rank in one of my top 3.
I recommend this to anyone who suffered dried skin after they use soaps or certain body washes its ideal and again smells amazing!
Hair Wax with Basil Extract
I dont tend to use hair wax as I dont like the feel of it but luckily enough for me I have a teenager who does.
I gave him the wax to try and he loves it!
It smells great and holds well without leaving any clumps or mess.
He uses it daily and it washes out well afterwards , he scored it 8 out 10 so im impressed at that.
I enjoyed using these Admiral’s products and I was left very impressed indeed not only by the quality of the packaging and the look of the products but at the quality of the product itself.
You can certainly tell they have but all those years to good use!
If you would like to try some of Admiral’s products yourself you can by going onto their website https://admiralgrooming.co.uk
If you use the code GIRAFF25 they will give you 25% off your first order
Daddy Giraffe x
*This is not an AD but a review on care products*
I haven’t been around for a while on here my blog or even on my Facebook Daddy Giraffe Page and what it was the reason?
Ask a daddy.
Woman go through pregnancy and labour to bring the baby into the world and sometimes choose to do the feeding to, they can share their experiences with other moms who will understand there journey and pain.
Men are in general in the dark a little on this subject so I have decided to go out on a limb and offer any moms a question to ask a daddy.
No questions off limits, just ask a question and I will explain it from a daddies point of view and based on my own experiences.
I had some wonderful responses from mummy’s from all over and i would like to share them with you all.
What did it feel like the first time you held your baby?
Love like ive never felt before, I remember holding my first born and looking at him thinking im going to love you for as long as I live and just look after you.
Both babies were so small and at the same time it was like oh my god im responsible for looking after this tiny human, how will I cope but I had a strong woman beside me who guided me through it all. https://mygirlsandmesite.com
Whats your usual daily routine?
It starts with getting up with my 3 year old and of course hes always hungry, followed by the rest of his brothers and sisters.
My older children come home from school, its then craziness and loud until its finally its bedtime. https://www.ourseasidebaby.com
Do you help with the night time feeds?
Since it was my first baby I threw myself in there and after I was shown what to do and how to hold him and wind him, I insisted on doing all the night time feeds and sorting them when they cried in the night.
I used to sing Freddie with songs from The Beatles…I think he may of just been pretending to be sleeping so I would just stop.
I enjoyed it but sadly it took away bonding time between between mummy and Freddie which I feel guilty for but they now have a close bond. https://freddiesmummyuk.com
Do you feel that two weeks paternity leave is enough for dads to bond with baby, assist mum after birth and adjust to life as a family?
Yes in a way of it more than enough time to bond with the baby to get some quality daddy and baby time.
No in the way of mom doesn’t get the rest or help she deserves, what people dont understand and I didn’t is that yes women get maternity leave but straight after they have given birth they dont get much time to rest.
They have to do everything for the baby, themselves and do everyday tasks while in pain and extremely tired. https://www.boorooandtiggertoo.com
Do you think that men can TRULY understand how it feels to be pregnant and give birth? And does it make you feel sad or relieved that you’re excused from that aspect of parenthood – or both?!
Cheryl was pregnant in the summer and poor thing was uncomfortable ALL the time, she could sleep, she was too hot, I felt helpless because in them aspects there is nothing much that I could do.
Watching her give birth was amazing yes it was sad to see her in such pain but to watch how strong she was and that she did in on such little gas and air showed me not only how tough she was but what she was willing to go through to bring this baby into the world to be loved and I will always be thankful to her for that.
But no..I stubbed my toe once and was close to calling a priest for my final goodbyes, I couldn’t imagine what its like for woman. https://www.mummyslittlemonkey.com
What one thing would you like your partner to understand (you know those moments where you may butt heads) ?
That im not doing these things to make you mad, yes I gave her some crisps 20 mins after you said no but she looked at me all cut, what was I supposed to do? https://www.sineadlatham.com
What’s the best thing about being a Dad?
Watching them learn something for the first time and how proud they look.
Weather it walk, counting or writing their name you have bot experienced it for the first time together. https://www.lyliarose.com
What are your favourite activities to do with your kids?
We would usually go on walks, trips to the park and recently found out the younger two 3 and 1 love the water so we went swimming quite a lot.
Now the baby insists on walking everywhere we try to get out as often as we can. http://lifewiththebusbys.com
Do you think that the role as Dad is as important as the role of a Mum?
Yes I think it definitely should be.
I know moms carry the baby and deliver it but the dads helped create the life and care for the mom through the whole way.
They should both be respected as each other by their children.
Thank you for being a part of my post today ladies and I hope you all have some sort of an incite to a dads world. https://thismummyrocks.com
Daddy Giraffe x